(Closed) Fun with Bi-Polar Mom (long vent)

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Wow, I don’t even know what to say, honestly. I’m sorry that you never had a real family, but it seems like your bf’s family is ok (just from reading this post). maybe its time to cut ties with your “family”, and become part of your bf’s family (if marriage is definitely in your future).  I really can’t think of anything else, but from the way you feel about them, it might be the best option, before their toxicity affects you anymore.  ((HUGS))

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I have no idea what to say except I’m sorry. Maybe, when you are married, you and your boyfriend can be a new family.

Post # 5
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624 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I’m sorry to hear that about your lack of family bonds.  I also know the havoc that having family with bi-polar can bring to ones life.  Although my story is quite different, I suffered as well. My father is the bi-polar one and was abusive growing up and because of his diagnosis and my defiance, I received the label (and pills) at 11 years old. I went thru my teenage years in and out of psych wards, fighting the diagnosis and fighting against the pills. Never once did my parents ask for a second opinion or question weather or not putting a pretty innocent 12 year old along side 16 year old heroin addicts.  I wound up at a residential treatment center for high school which I attribute to saving my life. While I was there I was able to prove that I was not bi-polar and did not need to be medicated and the majority of my problems stemmed from a toxic home life.

At this school, I made friends who were more like family than I had ever experienced before. These people are still in my life, supporting me and encouraging me and there for me if I ever need it. I’m not sure what happened but a few years ago I made peace with my family, somehow I was able to look past my mothers denial and started seeing my father as a pathetic old man.

After all this, Fiance sees my family as more of a family than his.  He is the youngest of four boys and felt the rage of them all, his mother has dementia and we never know for how long she will be cohearant.

My whole point was that home is where the heart is and family is the people in your heart. I’m sure the people you feel close to would jump at the chance of being there for you if you let them.  If your Future Mother-In-Law wants to be involved you should try and include her, I know its not easy.  Oh and if you need someone who can kinda/sorta relate… feel free to message me

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