Funeral freakout

posted 1 year ago in Emotional
Post # 48
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Blushing bee
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lauralaura123 :  

Death can be so difficult – it brings up your memories as well as the thoughts of never seeing this person again.  It can be frightening.  Understand that you are not alone.  I agree with lulubelle – you don’t have to go near the body.  Franky, I do think you need a little help.  As I went through this with my sister, what you do is be with someone you are very close to (your fiance or best girlfriend).  Call you doctor and see if a prescription can be made for you to get a low dosage of a relaxant like valium.  You won’t look drunk or act irrational – it will just calm you.  People understand that you may not way to talk or be obligated to participate in any wake or funeral activity – just be quiet and hold hands with your partner and be quiet.  Your partner or friend can speak for you – “she’s having a hard time and doesn’t want to talk — you understand.”  They will respect it.  But do go – it will mean a lot to the family and especially to your grandmother.  Remember, the greater part of who she is – is not in that casket.  She’s not suffering and in a beautiful place now.  Take good care of yourself.

 

Post # 49
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Sugar Beekeeper

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obviousanonymous :  

l have, actually,  the right to imply anything not actually libellous or clearly inaccurate. And l do know about phobias, l have one l am fairly regularly required to surmount.

My point is not that people don’t have fears and phobias and problems, but that they seem to think that announcing whatever it is is the end of it.

 I see OP has stepped up and acted appropriately, so there was no need to self righteously admonish me after all , hey?

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Buzzing bee

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lauralaura123 :  

I’m glad that you went and found that the experience wasn’t nearly as difficult as you had feared.  I hope this may be an experience to lean on with future worries.  You may find that your anxiety has less hold on you as you have experiences to reflect on in which circumstances weren’t as bad as you had feared and, with the difficulty that remained, you were stronger than you thought you were.

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