Post # 1
Bride and Groom were playing from their iphones their choices of songs for bridal party introductions at reception. Most of them I didn’t recognize but said “oh that’s nice”. Bride(DD) said this is the song for when you and Dad come in: “I like Big Butts”. I said “Are you kidding?” She said no, it will be funny. I’m in my 60s, a size 16, and usually have a great sense of humor – but this hurt. Am I being too sensitive?
Post # 3
@lynnwin: Maybe it wasn’t the best idea for her to play that song for you, but these days having a big butt is usually not a bad thing. She probably meant no harm.
ETA: Tell her definitely not about the song, though!
Post # 4
I guess it depends on the crowd but I would be mortified to have to walk into a room full of my family and friends to that song. I don’t find it funny at all.
Post # 5
I honestly think it was extremely insensitive of her. 🙁 Unless it were something you yourself joke about frequently. Otherwise, she shouldn’t have said it, even if she were joking. (which I’m sure she was) But most women,( no matter what size they are) don’t like being told they have a big butt. :/
I’m so sorry she hurt your feelings! I”m sure you have a great butt!! 🙂
Post # 6
@lynnwin: I read your previous topic here on WBee.
There is most clearly a HUGE disconnnect between you and your Daughter on this Wedding.
As a Mom myself, I can see why you are hurt… (( HUGS ))
Truthfully, I find her attitude towards you as quite RUDE… IMO you are not being too sensitive… she is being TOO INSENSITIVE and disrespectful.
At this point in time, I’d have a talk with her and tell her how you feel. If she can’t be more respectful to you her Parents, I’d let her know that you’ll be at the Ceremony (for the sake of the Grandkiddies… happy that their Parents are marrying), but are pulling out of the Wedding Reception (including the money you’ve committed for that event).
You don’t need to be “the butt” (sorry for the pun) of some sick practical joke for her “satisfaction”
She is being a self-righteous @ss. Period.
I am sure you raised her better than that (shows thru in your writings here on WBee). Don’t let her get the upper hand by making a fool of you in public.
Again I am sorry this is happening to you.
Post # 7
@SaucyMcgee: Yes this is my daughter. I wasn’t sure if I was being hypersensitive because there’s been one insensitive thing after another -from getting a ‘mass text’ to tell me she was engaged to asking me to babysit her kids for the rehersal and dinner (uh, I’m going to the rehersal & dinner).
Post # 8
That’s mean….I would not choose a song like that unless it was joke in my family (I would do right said fred “i’m too sexy” for my parents….)
Post # 9
I’d tell her no way. That’s rude and after reading what you said about the mass text and the rehearsal dinner, it sounds like she’s used to being very insensitive. I’m sure she thinks it would be funny, but I can see why you’d feel uncomfortable and have hurt feelings. Definitely tell her that song won’t be acceptable!
Post # 10
@lynnwin: Ahh, She’s not playing nice, then. Let the hurtful song roll of your back… Have you talked to her about how she treats you?
Post # 11
@This Time Round: Thanks, you sound really grounded. Thanks for everyone’s input. I’m going to tell her not to play that for our introduction. Love her, but she is a “boundary crasher” – constantly seeing how far she can push before you explode. You are right- raised her differently,pray for her daily, but keep boundaries so she doesn’t make me crazy. That’s why I wasn’t sure if I was being too sensitive.