Post # 1
OK, so my FH, my daughter (almost 16) and I are in Target an hour ago. Fi and Dirty Delete went ahead of me to pay for our stuff, while I was paying separately for things I was buying for my mother. As Fiance was checking out, I remembered I had a Target gift card, so I gave it to him to use. The checker made a big deal telling him to say “Thank you” to me for giving him the card. She was speaking to him like a child (he’s 37) and I told her, “He doesn’t need to thank me -he brings home all the money!” She kept on about how he should still say ‘thank you’ because it’s still important as kids get older and told him, “You could still say ‘thank you Mom'”. I looked at her and said, “MOM!!! I’m marrying this man in 3 weeks!” My daughter was mortified and I felt like crap. My FH just thought she was exceeding annoying and felt lousy that it hurt my feelings. Just as an FYI, I’m 15 years older than he is, but I know I look good. What about all the younger women with older men! Is this a problem for them? ARGGHH.
Post # 3
Waiters and cashiers think I’m married to my dad, so I can understand that it’s really annoying that people make those assumptions! You’ll be getting those types of comments for a while, I’m sure, but it’s still rude for people to assume.
Post # 4
Fiance looks WAY younger than his (almost) 30, so thankfully we don’t get questioned about it. He looks about 20-21 and I look 17-18. (I AM 18, but about to turn 19.)
However, when I go out to eat with my Dad (we do that sometimes, total daddy’s girl), the waiters/waitresses look at us strangely. One even asked us, ” Would you and your, um…..wife….like a dessert?” I guess they assume we’re married since I have my ring on and he has his band. I replied with, “Yeah, me and my father will have cheesecake…if that’s okay.” Haha. We get stares from lots of people, but I don’t understand. We look similar and don’t do anything ‘flirty’ or anything (ICK!! Lol) and clearly I look like his daughter. They must all think he’s the almost-50 perv dating the 20 year old….. :/ Sigh haha
Post # 5
Oh my gosh people should really just mind their business! Who does she think she is saying that to anyone even if he was 13! People are so weird
Post # 6
I’ve been mistaken for both my dad’s and stepdad’s wife!!! Double gross! Haha. It’s not as bad with my dad because we at least look related, but my stepdad is a completely different ethnicity (I’m black and he’s middle eastern) so we get tons of weird looks when we’re out together.
Post # 7
It’s hard to believe that a cashier would consider even a very young-looking 37-year-old young enough to need to be “corrected” — by HER — in a store, even if he WERE with his mother, lol.
This reminds me of a situation I faced last fall, when Darling Husband and I were traveling with a tour group of people, none of whom we had never met. There was a man and a woman who had the same last name, and they sat together on the tour bus. He was always helping her get around, and she did appear somewhat (but not dramatically) older than he. I just assumed she was his wife and that she had some health issues. At some point later in the week, I began to consider the fact that, just MAYBE, she was his MOTHER. I totally did not want to say anything that could in any way be offensive, so I determined that I was going to assume she was his wife unless or until HE or SHE said otherwise. (I figured to assume the reverse would be much more insulting to her if she did turn out to be his wife!) One night, at dinner, Darling Husband and I were sitting across from them, and they asked us how long we had been married, etc. I had to make some reference at that point, so I made a comment that showed that I assumed they were married, and the woman looked at me, startled, and said, “He’s my SON!” I then quickly apologized for my error. However, I was so glad that I had made THAT mistake rather than the one I could have made if the situation had turned out to be the other way around!