Post # 47
Like most men, my Fiance is completely relaxed about the idea of wedding planning. He is always saying, “Whatever you want baby.” However, it is strange how “Whatever you want” turns into “I dont want that, absolutely not. For example, I have always disliked black tuxes. It stems from my having to wear a tuxedo shirt and bow tie while working in high school at a mexican restaraunt. Thus, I knew immediately I did not want black tuxes. I love love love love the tan/khaki suits. He vetoed it, said he wanted a black tux “with frills” on the shirt and a bow tie. He even called his groomsmen and had them gang up on me with a “no sissy suits” rant. Needless to say, the color of the suits is still in flux.
Also, I have been searching everywhere for the perfect parasol. He tells people I want to hold a parasail, and rolls his eyes.
Finally, I kept bugging him to get a guest list together. He kept saying, “it will be small, don’t worry about it.” When I asked him what small was, he said like 50 people. His actual guestlist, I got this week, has 140 invites.
Post # 48
FH and I have been engaged since May 2009. Since he writes, plays, and composes music in his spare time, he started promising (aka insisting) me last summer that he was going to compose and arrange our processional and recessional. Summer passes, fall passes, and I of course have been planning away. Never do I hear ANYTHING about the music. This winter, I started gently reminding him what he promised, and he probably might want to get started.
Forward to July 2010, and I am in total freak-out mode. I have gotten SO many things done for the wedding already, and he hasn’t even picked the groomsmens’ tuxes. I start flipping out (stressed much?) and yelling about how he has been NO HELP at all!!! He gets very defensive, saying he doesn’t know what I’m talking about, that he has been helping the whole time.
Me: I gave you TWO jobs.
FH: Okay, tuxes, and ….
Me: Ceremony music!!!!
Me: Did you do the tuxes yet?
Me: Did you handle the ceremony music yet?
FH: …No. Crap. Sorry.
Needless to say he has been MUCH more helpful. And he decided to arrange instrumental versions of soem of our fav songs for the processional & recessional.
Post # 49
LOLO LOLOLOLOLO CHICKEN WHOLESALER LOLOLOL
Post # 50
This weekend my mom suggested an officiant to me so I was asking Fiance if he has any preferences (since neither of us are very religious). This is pretty much how the conversation went:
Me: Hey babe, do you care who the officiant is for the wedding
Me: The person who preforms the ceremony…
Him: ….. *blank stare*
Me: The person who marries us.
Him: I thought I was marrying you.
Me: ….. nevermind
Post # 51
Fiance: “Why can’t we get married at XYZ venue?”
Me: “Because their minimum revenue requirement is $24,000. Our budget is $25k.”
Me: “Honey we also have to think about DJ, Flowers, Photog, transportation, etc.”
Fiance: “We can do that all for $1k”
Post # 52
I gave him the groomsmen attire, limo, and hotel block. Those were his tasks.
Him: So I booked the hotel rooms today!
Me: Great! How much were they?
Him: I don’t know! The girl who is in charge of them couldn’t come to the phone. I need to call her back. (we live 5 minutes away from the hotel)
Me: But the hotel rooms are reserved?
Me: Are we getting a free bridal suite for booking them?
Him: Uhm.. I don’t know
Me: How about the bus shuttle? Does it go to the church and venue for free?
Him: No, I doubt that.
Me: You doubt that? Did you ask?
Him: Uhm, no.
Post # 53
We met with our photographer on Saturday. She asked how I was planning to get from the hotel to the country club.
Me- “I’m not positive, but I will probably use the shuttle that the hotel has.”
FI- “You know the shuttle is not at your disposal. You can’t just go down and say I’m ready, take me now.”
Me- “You are right, I will speak to them earlier to see if this is an option. I would let them know what time I need to leave by.”
FI- “Well the shuttle probably will be dirty and you don’t want to sit in gum.” (Me thinking- WTH? Why the frig would there be gum in the shuttle?)
FI- “I think it would be best to have your bridesmaids drive you and themselves to the wedding.”
Me- “No, honey, I don’t like that idea.”
FI- “Why not, you are being ridiculous- I can’t believe you won’t ride with your bridesmaids.”
Me- “I think it is kind of trashy to make them drive while they are all dressed up. It’s the one time that we really should be chauffered around.”
FI- “I just don’t get it.” (In an angry hurt tone!)
Through the whole planning of the wedding, this was the 1 thing he has been most vocal about!
Post # 54
My FH is from the UK and apparently they don’t have some of the same procedures as we do with a wedding:
Me: So, we need to finalise the rehearsal dinner menu since we are having it at the rental cabin. Are we making food or having it catered?
FH: *Blank stare*
Me: The rehearsal dinner? What are we going to eat?
FH: Why do we need to rehearse eating?
OMG. Really? Have you listened to nothing I have said! Apparently, they do not do a whole lot of rehearsal dinner-ing in Ireland.
Post # 55
Love these stories!
One day when I was out at the mall I stopped into a tux shop to pick up a brochure. When I came home, I gave it to Fiance so he could look at it.
He says, “I have a really nice suit. Can’t I just wear that?”
Lily: Um…no, you have to match the other guys.
Post # 56
my latest favorite: WHAT? I’ve seen your SHOES? Those are your shoes? ISN’T IT BAD LUCK THAT I SAW THEM. Oh, you have to wear different shoes.
Uh, I thought it was only the dress that was the secret. I mean he’s seen me beading the veil…
me too. he doesn’t care about anything until i plan it, and then he wants to redo it. ugh. but then he just wants it to be redone, not to do anything himself.
Post # 57
I showed him a picture of a candy buffet and he said, well that’s there for the kids. “Kids need candy.” Hah.
Post # 58
After we left a meeting for a vendor…
me: So what did you think?
him: It was okay. I wasnt really paying that much attention to what she was saying.
me: well what were you doing then?
him: I was watching the basketball game on the tv behind her head.
Nice. So glad I brought him with me for an opinion. 😉
Post # 59
“I think that if the bridesmaids are all wearing purple, then the groomsmen should all wear purple ties. That would look very cute to me.”
Post # 60
My Fiance has not been to very many weddings because I caught him telling his mom that if she doesnt cut it out she wont be able to walk him down to the aisle. i reminded him that he will already be up at the alter and I will be the only one getting walked down the aisle. LOL he is a huge mommas boy
Post # 61
Yeah – rehearsals sometimes happen, but the whole concept of a rehearsal dinner, with invites and specific outfits, is a bit alien to us on the other side of the pond 🙂 I’d like to have a meal with the parents and close family the night before, but that depends if they’re happy to travel over the day before and stay in our town… As yet, no real gems from my OH, but will keep an eat out for any “keepers”!