(Closed) Furious – Ex-Fiance Over at Midnight

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
3692 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

If they don’t have kids together, I don’t see any reason why he should have any contact at all with his ex.  Something sounds fishy.

Post # 5
8446 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@strawbabies:  +1, definitely sounds suspicious.

Post # 7
5885 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

He told you she didnt come over, then posted pictures of them on the bed together?

Post # 8
437 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’d be pissed, he is being very disresepctful of you.

Post # 9
1342 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@dragonlover:  Wait…  Your Fiance and this girl were laying in bed together and posting pictures of it on FB?  Just the other day?

Post # 10
3039 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think of myself as rather understanding and accepting, but in this case – I would have been furious.


In my case, my Fiance lived together with his ex for 11 years – they broke up and we became a couple. For various reasons, he didn’t tell her at once and when she found out, she was heartbroken and said some very nasty things about me to common friends. It was all quite painful and for two years, we didn’t speak to each other. Eventually we were in the same place, and I apologised to her for causing her pain. She accepted my apology and we’ve actually been friends since then. She sees my Fiance more often as they work in the same area and they go for lunch several days each week. I’m completely fine with all of this and when she had surgery, he stayed in her apartment one night to look after her, once again – nothing that I have an issue with. HOWEVER, this is all because she has accepted me as his wife to be, that there’s no more bad rumors and that there’s mutual respect. If this wouldn’t be the case, I would not want her in our lives. In your case, there was also them hugging and posting the photos on FB, that’s so disrespectful of your Fiance.


So to answer your question, you’re not wrong in feeling the way you do and I would make that very clear to your Fiance.

Post # 12
2188 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

Something is up and you need to confront him about it. If they don’t share kids then they shouldn’t be in contact and she should NEVER be on his bed EVER EVER EVER. I would be pissed that Fiance let her come over, that they took pics of them on his bed, this entire thing would piss me off and really make me question where his loyaties are, I mean if he is hanging out with her (and possibly doing more, sorry that’s my gut instinct) instead of you that is a HUGE red flag. You need to tell him she isn’t allowed to come over, he isn’t allowed to talk to her, no more hugs and pictures etc. He needs to break all contact with her.

Post # 13
4495 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think you have every right to feel this way. I don’t care if shes seeing cats, friends, teddy bears or whatever. His ex-fiance should not be at his apartment at that time of night, for that amount of time – on his bed! What does your Fiance say/do to combat the rumors she spreads to his friends about you? Does he defend you at all? I think its really disrespectful to have her over at all really, especially when she spreads lies about you to everyone. How would he like it if one of your ex-BFs was at your apartment that late at night with you?

Post # 14
1860 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@dragonlover:  Yeah, this is really strange…. I would NOT be ok with that..

Post # 16
1022 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Oh heck no. Seriously, I would NOT put up with that. That is so disrespectful, especially them being on the bed together!

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