- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
I need to get this off my chest because if I don’t I may end up blowing up on people for my friend.
So some background information. My best friend is getting married in two weeks. Our friendship was rekindling(after a 2 year hiatus) over our impending weddings. It dawned on us that we lost important time with each other and now was the time to put the past behind us and grow up.
Granted my friend and I have done a lot of planning together because we both share similar styles and it just worked well because we’re both getting married, however we have gone out of the way to make others feel included during this whole process.
My first complaint, the other bridesmaids. One girl has been AWOL for every function. She didn’t come to try on the dresses and got mad when we went ahead and picked a dress and it was even purchased for her(no one ever asked her to pay the money back) She didn’t come to the bachelorette getaway weekend and now, two days before the shower she withdraws her “RSVP” which she never actually sent to me.
She committed herself to help throw the shower but never returned my calls or emails. So I have planned this whole shower myself with the assistance of one of my maids (MY FREAKIN MAID!) This girl had the nerve to get pissy with me when she wasn’t listed as a host for the party. Uhmm..you contributed no creative ideas or financial assistance and you won’t even be there so why exactly should you be listed as a host?
The second maid, I’m willing to cut a bit of slack but I’m still frustrated with her. She’s in high school, works, and is on her school dance team so her time is limited. But she’s been incredibly flakey as well. Arriving late to meet ups, not showing up to the shower after committing to it, complaining about the color scheme and how if it was her wedding she would have done this, this, and that.
These are just a couple of obnoxious things on their end.
Then there’s the grooms parents. The bride and groom never asked for money for the wedding but her parents willingly offered money as a gift. The groom’s parents constantly stated “We’re broke and just don’t have the means to do it.”
Okay, fair enough. Except out of the blue they decide to have a vow renewal (on their 27th wedding anniversay….random) and dropped about 20k on a weekend log shindig.
Then the groom’s mother decides to throw a hissy fit about not being invited to the bachelorette getaway even though it was specifically stated it was for her friends (23-27 year old women) and the bride’s own mother wasn’t even invited.
Today while out with the bride, groom, and my fiance the groom’s mother calls and asks if they can play the first dance song again so she and her husband can have a special dance.
My friend said, “Well I think that might be a bit repetative for the guests and we’d really like to play as much fun dancing music as possible.”
I honestly wanted to grab the phone and yell “Uhh, hell no! It’s not your special time so you don’t get to dance to their special song. Plus it’s weird you’d even ask.”
Oh…and the bride gave the mothers the option to wear something they felt comfortable in but asked that they choose something in a chocolate, eggplant, or coral color. The grooms mother chose a mint green cocktail dress because it “really made her eyes stand out.”
I’m just so frustrated for my friend. She wants everyone to be happy and to refrain from being a bridezilla but I feel like she’s just letting everyone walk all over her. I keep telling her to stand up for herself and she can do that without being rude but now she’s just in this “Oh well..” mindset.
I know a wedding isn’t the most important thing but they’ve worked so hard to throw this party and they have worked so hard to make sure it’s an event their guests will have fun at. I’m just so furious their family and supposed friends have shown so little consideration.