(Closed) Furious with my roommate/tenant

posted 6 years ago in Home
Post # 3
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14484 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Wow, that is really weird.  I cant believe she would just move in without any sort of agreement too.  Is it possible that she is his “house guest” and maybe already otherwise homeless  (if that’s even allowed) until it was sorted out…. not that i makes it any better.  I’d still be pretty pissed too.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

This is so wierd… is there a lease at al? Im sorry but you need to get home asap and take care of your buisness. This women has already been living there a week. If there are any damaged to your place you cant hold her responsible because she hasnt signed anything.

Wow…. this sound really messy! Good luck!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Any possibility she’s staying in the friend’s room and not yours?  Still less than ideal but might take the rage down to red hot from volcano.

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

WOAH – I think you need to try to calm down a bit for now.

You have no proof or even evidence that points to the fact that she is living in your room.  For all you know, your dad is right that she’s been there all week but she is living with the other roommate, sharing his/her space.  Or she’s maybe just been hanging out a lot and not “living” there at all.

Obiously I’d be pissed if what you think is happening turns out to be true but I think you are jumping the gun a bit here.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Your dad’s descriptions seem pretty vague… there’s lots of things “girlfriend” and “appears to be living there” could mean.

It seems that otherwise, he has been a decent tenant, so I’d be wary of jumping to conclusions…

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@MrsStrawberry24:  You can just as you could if someone smashed their car into yours, it’s just that you wouldn’t do so through the lease.  It’s possible she could hold the friend responsible through the lease though, depending on how that is written.

Is there a reason for the non-market rent – have you thought about increasing the rent on the friend?

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Wow! I got angry just reading this & imagining myself in your shoes. I completely understand your need to rant, especially because you cannot get a hold of the one person who can confirm your (and your dad’s) suspicion. I don’t really have great advice, but if I were you I would try my best not to let myself get any more upset until you talk with your male tenet. He’s probably in the wrong whether or not this girl officially moved in (given that he probably should have informed you of her extended stay even if she wasn’t moving in). If you’re anything like me then you won’t stop thinking about this (and will continue to fume) until you talk to him, so I hope you’re not like me and can find other, more pleasant things to think about until then 🙂

 

 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Could it be that she is his girlfriend and stays over sometimes kind of like what you do with your fiance? Not moved in but sleeps over? Maybe he was considering asking her to move in with him but first wanted to see if that was an option with you. If I paid rent somewhere and wanted a friend to sleep over I wouldn’t ask permission, at least I didn’t in college. Before you freak out completely I’d nail down the details.

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

@cora_123:  “If I paid rent somewhere and wanted a friend to sleep over I wouldn’t ask permission, at least I didn’t in college.”

I agree.  If I am paying rent on a bedroom, it is nobody’s business but mine if I allow someone to sleep over with me.

Post # 16
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@gertrude:  wow!  I cant believe shes jsut there staying in your room.. in your bed?!  I mean, its still technically YOUR room right??  You could have come back anytime and gone to bed.  That definitely calls for a heads up or permission!  I’m glad you got in touch with him and things are good now….

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