(Closed) Furious!

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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5498 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

That’s bull!!! Can you call and ask why he was denied when people are ordained on the INTERNET for crying out loud? I hope  you fight it! = ( That’s not fair!

Post # 4
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248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m sick for you.  Would he be totally hurt if you asked him to get ordained on the internet to make it work?  I think that’s such a great tradition, to have family marry you – we’re doing it and I’ll watch out for that.  How incredibly sh-tty. 

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I was thinking the same thing as hopewell, if they aren’t willing to work with them at least you have the option to do it on the internet. my brother married us and it literally took him 2 minutes to fill out the form and cost $12 to have the certificate mailed

Post # 6
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3125 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

if it’s so easy to get the internet thing, just have him sign up. pay for it if you feel bad.. no worries!

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

That is absolutely ridiculous. I say fight it and see if they budge, and if not see if he’s willing to either do the internet thing, or if he can be deputized by the state (is that the same as being registered?) for 24 hours. I don’t know if New York has that, but California does…

Post # 9
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2634 posts
Sugar bee

I agree with Melissabegins.  Just get him ordained on the internet.  Yes, it sucks all around, but he’ll still be able to marry you and really, no one will be the wiser.

Post # 10
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2000 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

That’s NOT cool! I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this! I know it’s such a personal & important thing to you guys, I really hope yall get it figured out.

Post # 11
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987 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

That is so freakin ridiculous!  We were “officially” married by a magazine editor because the magazine was doind a story on couples who were opting for civil services because of the economy, etc.  We won a contest to get married in their offices instead.  The editor did the internet thing too so it would be official.  It is crazy to think that an out-of-state pastor is denied.  Ugh, I feel for ya!

Post # 12
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2249 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

he can still perform the ceremony. you could do the paperwork with someone else! The legal part is just that- jegal paperwork mumbo jumbo what matters is your day and your tradition!

Post # 13
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434 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

We had the exact same thing happen to us – in fact, the friend who was going to marry us had been granted the one-day license four other times in the same state.  Ergh.  We ended up having a civil ceremony done by a lawyer near the court house two days before the wedding, and then going ahead and doing the ceremony as planned by our friend.  It was a disappointment when we had to do the civil ceremony, but by the day of the wedding, we had kind of forgotten all about it.

Post # 14
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5823 posts
Bee Keeper

That’s bollocks!  Sometimes I really wonder about the “system.”  Who exactly does this red tape help??

Post # 15
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1135 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

I just wanted to let you know that we had the same issue when my sister got married in New York.  She wanted my stepdad to marry her–he is a retired minister without his own congregation.  We had some trouble with New York but went through a few things to get it worked out so that he could meet all their weird rules.  If you want the specifics on what we had to do and we worked around it, PM me and I’ll get the info from my sister for you.  She was pretty frustrated too, but it got worked out and he performed their ceremony in Central Park.  It was beautiful!

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