Post # 1
Mr.Scooter and I are one of those couples who’s been together for quite a while. We definately have what you’d call an established household. So there’s not a ton of stuff we’d really want to register for, in the traditional sense. We might like a new set of pots and pans, but we don’t need them, and we’d have already just replaced them if we did. We bought new towels when we bought our house. So most of that typical kind of stuff is more than taken care of, and anything else would just end up as clutter.
What we really could use is new bedroom furniture. Aside from the bed itself (which is only a mattress, boxspring, and frame at this point), everything else is either plastic storage drawers, or the hodge-podge furniture Mr.Scooter has literally had since he was 12. I’m not exaggerating. Would it be waaaaay too much or too weird to ask if people could put $$ towards helping us buy a nice bedroom set? How would that even be done? I haven’t seen a furniture store that offers a gift registry (at least, they aren’t obvious about it if they do), and it’s hard to pick out furniture in advance if there’s no guarantee they’ll even be carrying the same sets 6 months from now.
I do know that it is generally not considered a good idea to simply ask for money, except maybe in the case of those new honeymoon registries. Is there a tactful way to do this, or should we just wrack our brains for minor things that we might still use, and put those on a registry instead? I have a hard enough time producing a Christmas wish list when Mr.Scooter’s family asks for it, because if I want something, I generally just save up and buy it myself! Furniture is a bit more on the expensive side of things, though.
I would love to hear your ideas about this, Bees!
Post # 3
DH and I were in the same boat. Everything that was on our registry was either upgrades to what we already have (a Dyson vacuum, nicer pots and pans, etc), or the little things that we thought were fun (a mandoline slicer, a mango pitter). A lot of department stores of furniture sections, so you may want to start there. You could always hope that people will pool together and get you something as a group. Or at least you could put gift cards towards purchasing it at the end, that’s how we ended up buying our Dyson vacuum. Plus you get to use your registry completion discount at the end, so you could get a discount on it afterwards if you buy it yourself.
I can add items to my registry for up to a year after the wedding as well, so we’re actually going to use that for after we renovate the house and will need new furniture 😉
Post # 4
Good idea, Bakerella. Upgrades on a few things can be nice, too!
I do see that American Furniture Warehouse has a registry account that people can contribute to. Though I’d still like to see what people’s opinions are on doing it in the first place. 🙂
Post # 5
We are going to register for dining room furniture from Crate & Barrel. We are in the same boat too, and don’t need a lot of kitchen items either. I’m sure there are other stores out there that you can probably register at.
Post # 6
If I saw furniture on a registry, I’d definitely give a gift card for that store and put a note in the card like “This is to go towards your new bedroom set” or whatever. I think it’s a great idea.
The only thing I don’t like to see on a registry is really personal stuff like perfume. How is that for building your future together?!
Post # 7
I think you can register for furniture on Amazon, Williams-Sonoma, Pottery Barn, and Crate and Barrel, and a lot of department stores; I know that I’ve seen beds and the like on friends’ registries who have registered with prototypical retailers.
It’s not so much that you can’t register for pricey items, but more that you mix them in with more affordable stuff. A lot of places have generous return policies, so even if you register for stuff you don’t need, you might be able to return for a gift certificate to put towards furniture (although check what the return policy is–some places have a time limit, which means you’ll have to take the stuff back periodically rather than in one trip after the wedding)
Personally (and admittedly this is a point of contention on the bee) as a guest I don’t like being asked for cash, honeymoon funds, or stuff like that. I would recommend you add furniture to your registry and try to get it out via word of mouth to close family and friends that you’d really love a new bed. Some people might pool funds together to get you what you want.
Post # 8
I used to work for a major furniture retailer and we once had a couple come in and put together a ‘registry’.
They selected everything they wanted, and we wrote up an invoice for them so their order was in our computer system, and they balance was unpaid (nothing gets delivered until it’s paid for, obviously).
People would come in, and either just put money towards the entire order or pick a specific item and purchase it (toss cushion, end table or whatever). We would print off a ‘gift certificate’ which was just something we made up in a word processing program that could be included in the card brought to the shower and then the couple could arrange delivery of whatever they had received at a convienent time.
Hope that helps a little 🙂