(Closed) future decisions pleaseeee help

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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3762 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Wow. you have a lot going on and I hate to say this, but I could only skim the post due to all the “shortcuts” used.  

It sounds like you guys have a lot of dreams (Doctor and Fashion) both of which require a lot of work time and money in order to actually be successful in.  While I think you should always try for your goals you should be realistic about it all as well.  Maybe you could work at a department store in fashion and work your way up to manager?  Maybe thats more in line with what you like instead of McDonalds.  

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Sorry I can’t give you any more advice.  If you can’t take the time to write full words and sentences then I am not going to take the time to try to decipher what you are writing and provide you with advice.  

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

What classes have you been taking to get your AA?  You should major in whatever sparked your interest in those classes.  To be honest most people I know ended up w/ jobs outisde of their major.  I know a marketing major who works in IT, a Ocean Studies major who works in marketing and an Art History major who works in Financial planning as some recent examples.  I am just finishing my degree in English and am seriously considering teaching, although the pay and the odd schedule is something that I would have to come to terms with before going into the field.  No matter what you do, having a BA/BS can’t be hurt so I would move forward with that plan.

As far as your fiance, EMTs don’t make that much, but it is pretty good exposure to the medical field if he’s sure that’s where he wants to go.  He might decide the field is not for him, though.  That’s what happened to me anyway, though now I have it down to a couple different jobs that I’m really interested in, so at least it helped me to figure out what I DO want to do..  It will be very difficult to support himself through a BS for nursing or getting his MD, esp if he is married and may have to support you too, so I would try to use the AA to get at least a slightly higher paying job than McDonalds in the meantime.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

First, I am going to echo what Caszos said: “If you can’t take the time to write full words and sentences then I am not going to take the time to try to decipher what you are writing”. A word of friendly advice, if you feel as though journalism is a back up plan for you, please reconsider using slang and abbreviations during communication. While in certain areas it is acceptable, and certain abbreviations are expect, i.e., FI/FH for fiance/future hubby or STD for save the date on these boards, the over use of abbreviations and slang make your posts virtually impossible to read.

That being said, you have been given solid advice about starting to work in the fashion field as opposed to the fast food industry. Perhaps you can look into taking classes online in journalism or another field that is of interest to you. This option might be less expensive than traditional brick and mortar schools while still exposing you to the information. Please, do your research on online schools though as not all are created equal. This option also allows you the flexibility of working more than part time after finishing your AA, hopefully in a field that will give you exposure to fashion and/or journalism. Your boyfriend/fiance seems to have the right idea of working in his chosen field while attaining his degrees/certifications. Perhaps you can follow suit?

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I can’t really comment on much because honestly I didn’t read all through your post myself, but my whole family is in the health/medical industry (except me) so I thought I’d give you my perspective.  I’ve seen my brothers and sister struggle their way through their schooling, residencies and the whole lot (sister is a pharmacist, 1 brother is a doctor and 1 is a physician’s assistant).  They each worked in the industry prior to decide if that was worth the associated efforts and cost.  My brother worked as an EMT for two years and EMTs do NOT get pay well (at least not in California, I don’t know about other parts of US).  I’m assuming you’re both fairly young so you will have time to devote to a LOT of school, 4 years of undergrad, 4 years of med school and depending on your field, a few more years of residency. Also consider the cost, my sister racked up $150k in loan for tuitition.  Your guy is on the right track (but he’s not going to make enough money to support a family on an EMT salary…)

As for your plans, you’re better off finding out what you want to do as a starting point.  You have to know where you’re going in order to take the right path! Because of my family background, I aspired to be a doctor myself…I took a volunteer position at the hospital in high school and found out I hate EVERYTHING about hospitals.  I cried at the sight of needles, vomitted at the sight of blood, sick people got me all choked up and the eerie hallways at the hospital scared me to this day.  I lasted two days!  After some major soul searching and talking to people that knew me for their input, I went into engineering.  I now work as a Civil Engineer and I can’t be happier with my decision.  If you find a job you love, you never have to work a day in your life!  You can start thinking about this by asking this question “what would make me get up each morning day in and day out, for years and years?”  Hopefully it’ll give you a gimpse of what you want to do and not to do.  Whatever it is that you decide, good luck!

Post # 9
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365 posts
Helper bee

I’m really sorry but I didn’t understand what you wrote. 🙁  As a college graduate I assume you can write properly?

I think you should go with something stable.  When your future husband has something stable going on then you can pursue your dream of working in the fashion industry.  And by then you may find your priorities have changed.

You did ask for opinions.  That’s what I’d do.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I will say this, although you probably don’t want to hear it, but it is the truth:

The fashion industry, like journalism, art-related, and other creativity-based fields is one of those hit-or-miss sort of things. Unfortunately, a lot of the time it’s about who you know first, and THEN they look at what you’ve done/are able to do. It is a field where only the top tier actually make a livable wage, and can actually afford to pay back the money it took to get the degree in the first place.

If you are serious about fashion, you need to start making connections, do (unpaid and paid) internships, informational interviews, etc. You cannot expect your degree alone to land you a job anymore (this is true in almost any field, but especially in fashion/art/journalism, etc). It’s all about who you know and what you’re willing to do for free.

Good luck to you and your Fiance.

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