(Closed) Future Family in Law Drama! (long rant)

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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1763 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I would try to stay out of family issues  in the future. If Future Mother-In-Law asks you to look into something I would simply decline. It is really between them what goes on at Future Mother-In-Law house.

As far as allowing her in your house I would give her the chance to apologize and move on. Unless your Fiance is willing to cut her out of his life it is going to put a strain on your relationship.

Post # 4
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1489 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Mrs.T To Bee: It was not right what was done but here is where you have to decide which battles you are willing to fight and what you want to let go of…..

 

Post # 6
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706 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m not gonna lie, I’m a little confused by this. Why were they digging a hole? And why would Future Mother-In-Law call you about it?? And did your confrontation about the mysterious hole happen on Facebook? And what’s this about a fistfight?! Maybe my reading comprehension skills have gone down the drain, but I CAN discern that it sounds like there are a lot of different issues at play here. I agree with others that you should probably distance yourself from this crazy family and *definitely* don’t engage them on Facebook (if that’s what happened). You should also make sure you’re on the same page as your fiance about your involvement with his family, since it doesn’t sound like that’s the case.

Good luck with everything!

Post # 8
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706 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Mrs.T To Bee: Ah, ok, that makes more sense. Here I was, imagining that they did a mob hit on someone and were trying to bury the evidence. LOL.

I would have a serious chat with your fiance about what is and isn’t acceptable for both of you in terms of your relationship with your in-laws (parents & children). For one thing, you should not have been responsible for finding out what the hell was going on with this hole. Your fiance should’ve been the one to step in and contact his siblings, and then contact his mother about it. If something like that arises in the future, I would pass it off to your fiance since it’s not your obligation to step in. You should talk with him about what you are comfortable with (him spending time with his sister without you, perhaps), and what you aren’t comfortable with (him bringing his sister home when he agreed not to, you having to spend time with her, etc.). If these boundaries are crossed, then your issue is with your fiance and not your in-laws.

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