- 6 years ago
- Wedding: December 1969
My future father in law is my fiance’s best man at our wedding take place in one month. I really like my father in law, but he’s totally clueless as to his best man duties. My fiance and I both feel uncomfortable having to ask about things like the bachelor party, giving a toast at the reception, etc. but because future father in law isn’t coming to us with these details we’ve sort of been forced to ask. For example, future father in law still hasn’t formally planned anything for a bachelor party with less then a month until our wedding. My fiance volunteered to his dad that he’d like to do something low key like go paintballing. Future father in law instead happened to mention to my mom last week that he’s planning a bachelor party trip to a casino less then two weeks from now. My embarrassed fiance who is a police officer had to tell his dad that he works that weekend (duh his dad knows he works on weekends) and that it was unlikely his friends who are also cops with crazy schedules could get off work with that short of notice. I can tell my fiance’s feelings are sort of hurt but he’d never make a big deal out of it. We also asked father in law about doing a toast and he said he doesn’t know how to give a toast so it’s been left as not really knowing if he’s going to give a toast so we again are going to have to ask and feel uncomfortable. Lastly (sorry long rant) I don’t trust future father in law to pick up the tuxes because he’s so clueless and I can just see him coming home without everything. My fiance said it will hurt his feelings if we don’t let him do this task.
How do I deal with future father in law without hurting his or my fiances feelings??