- 10 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
Sorry Miss Teachy that things are going this way. Sorry if you did’nt get the support you were hoping for from the other bees. It hink they are trying to be helpful but worded things harshly..obviously not what you needed but I think there is a general consensus about your situation that speaks volvumes 50+ bees can’t all be wrong that’s for sure. But you alredy knew this.
If it’s over, let the healing begin.I too know how scary it can be to walk away when you’ve invested so much time and love into someone. And yes, relationships are hard, but if you have trust and respect, you can get through the hard stuff. If he took the ring back, then I agree it would be in your best interest to walk away with your dignity intact. After all, you both had doubts, you both aren’t happy. It’s not just him…your not the one getting dumped here. Believe me, you don’t want that ring and all that comes with it.
How do you let go after all you’ve put into this? there’s no easy answer Miss Teachy. I can share that after being maniplulated, taken advantage up and lied to for 2 years…it wasn’t easy at all. Even after I caught my ex cheating red handed (I moved in with him briefly, and one morning he was on the phone with someone else while he though I was sleeping and I picked up the other line). At that point I didn’t care who it was, or why he was doing it. Long story short, I moved out that day. I spend DAYS crying in bed at my parents house. I even gave him another chance after he begged me back. But it wasn’t long before it all started again…before I couldn’t trust not one word from his mouth. The blessing that got me throug this was my now fiance’. You see, my then boyfriend had gone back to his old ways of lying…and he dissapeared on me for a week. During that week, I met my Fiance (this was 10 years ago)…for me, it was love at first sight. He asked me out, but I declined (because I had a boyfriend). I went home that night…and cried, why the F was I ruining my life for this guy? Why?? Why am I so scared??
I’d say a few days later my then boyfriend called me to tell me he was back..and he would like to see me. I was laying in bed at the time…and I remember feeling just digusted with him. I said it was over, that I never wanted to see him again. That I hoped to find someone else, someone who can treat me better. He said fine, and hung up.
After 2, almost 3 years of lies, betrayl, turmoil and just feeling like I was worth nothing to him…it was over and I ended it. I cried in bed for the next hour, knowing my life would never be the same. I prayed for God to help me forget him once and foever. Well, I did.
A few months later I started dating again, even dated my now Fiance and became good friends with him. I had fun, I learned to enjoy everything about being single. I got a roomate who was sweet and supportive. But it wasn’t until 9 years later I got engaged to the man I had began dating the year I left my first serious boyfriend.
You have so much ahead of you, don’t give up. Be strong, but it won’t be easy.