(Closed) Future Fiance?

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
1022 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Haha, my SO calls me his Fiance when we need to appear more “stable” for whatever reason (apartments, etc). It is so cute, but at the same time it frustrates me…why don’t you just make it official already so we don’t have to LIE!? 

But he constantly refers to me as his “pre-fiance” when we are just speaking casually. 

That sounds exciting for you!!

Post # 4
26 posts
  • Wedding: December 2011

I was lurking on the Knot a while ago, and this was in someone’s signature. I had to download it, haha (is that weird of me?)


When we applied to rent a house, he wanted to call me his fiancee but we were worried the landlord would say something to his parents and they would get upset (my parents already know). we’re waiting to tell his parents and everyone else until after his “surprise” real proposal in June. I put “surprise” in quotations because his friends spoiled it for me. He told me when it would be, but I know details I’m not supposed to know.

but we got the house anyway so no worries.

Post # 6
297 posts
Helper bee

@LaurenK0105:  I just switched companies and when the District Manager of the new company offered me the job, I told him I needed to talk to my fiance over the weekend and then I would call him to let him know my decision on Monday.  I told my BOYFRIEND (yuck! yuck!  hate that word at my age) what I had told the District Manager and although he didn’t flinch, I felt the need to add “Well, I had to call you my fiance, because I would actually like to be taken seriously…not viewed as a little girl.”  🙂 

Post # 7
483 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I write Fiance on here all the time and the other day my FI/BF/SO said  “oh so I’m officially FI?”    I guess because he didnt propose so he doesn’t feel he is entitled to it yet but I don’t mind it at all, as soon as we started wedding planning that’s it, he was Fiance. 

In the past if on an occasion calling him fiance was needed I would not hesitate, I have thought about this before once or twice, especially infront of more conservative people. 

Just can’t wait to call him “husband” that’s going to be the best!!!!!!!!!!

Good luck, I’m not sure how long you’ve been waiting but maybe your text will speed things up since the topic came up now.

Post # 8
9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Not a fan of “Future Finace” gotta say. If you have to lie, why not just say “Fiance”?

After all, engagements are no more set in stone than future ones.

It doesn’t sound like he was taking it terribly seriously, but at least he wasn’t making an issue out of it.

Post # 9
3220 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

why not “significant other”?

Post # 10
7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@KatyElle: Agreed. Future fiance sounds really childish to me.  I would just say fiance if you think boyfriend doesn’t sound serious enough.

Post # 11
4755 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m not sure why you had to mention to him you’re going to refer to him as that? Or why not use “partner” or common law. The effect is the same.

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