(Closed) future husband on the bee… help!

posted 7 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 3
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878 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Aw that’s so sweet of you 🙂 I would advise you to plan everything out as early as you can- this will keep the stress down and allow you to enjoy the process.

Post # 4
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235 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Welcome!  These boards are definitely open to boys!  We need the guys point of view sometimes to help us out with what our FI’s (fiances) are thinking! 

I definitely appreciate my fiance for letting me vent and get it all out, and then working on the problem. 

Post # 5
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5093 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

Quick, everyone, hide the “NO BOYS ALLOWED BECAUSE THEY HAVE COOTIES!!!” signs!

Really, though, welcome!  I think it’s great that you’re getting involved. 

The one piece of advice I can offer is for you to offer to do one or two small wedding planning things that you know you can handle (like stuffing the invitation envelopes, or finding the best gifts possible for your groomsmen), and then follow through.  The absolute worst thing you could do is to offer and then not do what you said you would.

Post # 6
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1697 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Props to you! Dont take your first quote. Haggle. times are tough and people want your $$$. We talked down ALL our venue options. DONT say its for a wedding when you call and ask for quotes. They will DOUBLE the price. that was my experience. and yes!! Plan early!!

Post # 7
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114 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Hello!  Nice of you to join us!

 

I agree with all the previous posts, help reduce her stress as much as possible — I promise, you’re really helping yourself out!  You take on some tasks (even if it’s just running to pick something up for her, going with her somewhere, or communicating with people), and she is less stressed and has more time for you.  

No advice for the first couple of months, because I’m only engaged.  But there’s a lot to planning a wedding, any help you could offer helps make the wedding more intimate, is a great bonding experience, and really alleviates her workload and stress.

Good luck and congratulations!

Post # 8
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172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I definitely agree with all the previous posters help as much as you can! My husband helped with the easy stuff and he made most of the phone calls which gave me more time to do other things. As for the first couple months of marriage, enjoy and RELAX! you’ll really need it after the wedding. If you two aren’t living together before you’re married, it’ll take some getting used but it gets better. And refer to her as your wife a lot, if she’s like me, she’ll love hearing that.

Post # 9
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2699 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

   Keep doing housework.

Post # 10
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167 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@ticatica: LOL!

@ OP – can you show some ID first please? How do we know you have permission to be here from the future wife? 😉

Post # 11
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161 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My fiance asks me about once every 2 or 3 weeks what he can take off my plate planning wise.  9 times out of 10 I don’t have anything I need to give him, but it’s always nice to know that he is willing to help.

* I am assuming he has a calendar reminder to do this b/c he always asks on a Tuesday and it doesn’t matter at all, so if you have a hard time remembering like mine does, try this:)

Post # 12
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1489 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

VERY SWEET…WELCOME

 

REMEMBER TO REMAIN CALM

 

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