- 10 years ago
- Wedding: August 2008
Hello everyone, I am hoping you could help me with some insight as to my future in-laws.
My fiance’s parents have helped us with a lot over the last few months, but non of it has been wedding related. We have hit a couple rough months when they have helped us with car payments and utilities. But when it comes to the wedding and wedding planning, we hear nor receive anything.
They are not helping with paying for anything for the wedding. Not the flowers, nothing. Although recently they offered to pay for a rehearsal dinner for a quarter of our guests in our destination wedding (according to the ettiquet you should invite all of them). Recently, we have been working towards figuring out all the little details such as transportation to and fromt he ceremony. They want a limo to be provided for all the attendees (about 30 people) but never offered to help pay for any of it. In the meantime, my parents have paid for EVERYTHING including the flowers, and event he honeymoon suite for our wedding night and they have offered very little.
Am I out of line for being a little bitter towards that? They have helped my fiance in other ways but they are not stepping up to help with this. Should I take it personally? My mom is so frustrated because my future in-laws clearly have more money than my parents do and my parents are struggling to pay for everything.
I am hesitant to bring this up with my future in-laws because financial matters is such a touchy subject and my fiance says that, "it’s just the way they are". Has anyone else experienced this?