(Closed) Future In-Laws

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1 posts
Wannabee

Oh trust me you are not the only the only one that feels this way, i have been with fh for almost 8 yrs now. His family doesn’t like me either and it will never change for me, even though i have done nothing wrong to them and have always tried to help out or be there for even the little thing’s it doesn’t change. Even after having two children together it didn’t change a thing. I have came to the point to just stop trying b/c no matter what or how hard i try for them to like me it doesn’t matter. It will bother you and you will still wanna try , but you will realize they are not worth it. You will have less stress in your life and remember you have your own family and friends that love you for who you are!!!!!

Post # 4
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248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I used to feel the same way.  

My Future In-Laws don’t like me either: I’m foreign, have been married twice before, couple of years older than Fiance and can’t have children.  I’ve travelled the world – they’ve barely left the UK.  They are homophobic – Fiance is bisexual (obviously he has never told them).   We have nothing in common.

I felt like you during my 1st marriage…Mother-In-Law didn’t like me, barely ever talked to me.  I was only 18 when I first met her, suffered from social anxiety and would barely say boo to a goose.  I got married when I was 21 and all of a sudden she thawed a litte – but it was too little, too late for me.  I had reached the point where I didn’t care anymore.  You can’t make people like you.  

I realised it wasn’t anything I had done during my second marriage, where I got on well with my ILs.  Concentrate on the people you do get on with, life is too short to bother with people who are not going to appreciate your efforts. 

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