Post # 46
I totally understand what both you and your fi parents feel. We were initially going the have whatever we wanted. shrimp, scallops wrapped in bacon (can you get any more traif?). I have an orthodox kosher couple who I seriously thought would not come to our wedding-our wedding starts before sundown on shabbat sat night. well they’re coming (and i’m happy about it they are lovely people) but now im questioning the whole menu because were having shrimp, mixing milk/meat. I’m so embarrased. NOONE else at the wedding is kosher and noone will have an issue w this. and here I am stressing out over 2 people I’m not even close to. it’s so crazy. I feel like I have to change the whole menu and be kosher style just for 2 people. i already informed I will get them a kosher meal and that the venue/cocktail hour is not kosher… but I feel terrible and insulting having the most unkosher jewish wedding you can imagine.
Post # 47
If it is only two people, you can find many kosher places that will bring in a plate and I literally mean you pay for the plate and the food that is on the plate and it is cooked under strict kosher guidelines and they can give instructions to the waiters handing out the food or the day of coordinator to take of of it.
We are having family from Israel and a couple other people who keep strict kosher and we are having a kosher caterer bring in the number of plates and a tray of appetizers for them we need to meet their dietary needs. We are also having a small kosher wedding cake bought and we also have someone who has celiac disease that is gluten free. Every place we have gone to has been very accomodating and understands it happens and some people have very strict dietary needs.
If its two people its not a big deal at all, the whole kosher style thing I would just do it, no one is going to miss cheese not being served, and honestly your parents are paying they have as much say as you do in the wedding, if you don’t want it that way, then pay for it your self.
Post # 48
Also, parve wedding cakes taste amazing!!!