- 1 year ago
- Wedding: February 2020 - UK
So, in the beginning, I and OH decided to wed but only gave 6 months to prep, pal and execute…. easy. It was until the in-laws started acting like children.
It started with his sis (L) stating that if Future Father-In-Law (J) is invited then er 2 kids aren’t going, fine, we invited 2 others in their place. 2 months later she changed her mind and said 2 kids were going, we looked at the rsvp list and then realised we’d over invited, so we explained that no kids were invited due to numbers, made it clear on invites it was adult only. Then Brother (G) got involved. Both G and L stated if kids can’t go then they’re not going. We offered a sitter for the 30 min ceremony, they then accepted. Then in comes Future Mother-In-Law, she has sight problems, she then said if L and G didn’t go she would have no one to walk her to her seat (she was travelling with the groom). Once that was explained she then pulled a face as if trying to think of the next excuse.
2 months to go
L, G, and Future Mother-In-Law have all said they are not going if Future Father-In-Law is invited (I prefer him to them so he’s not being uninvited). I genuinely feel for my oh now as all my family is coming and now only his dad, step mam, uncle and aunt are coming. I’ve told him to tell them not to bother at all as we’ve invited others to take their spots. I’ve also said I’d cut all ties with them. If they can’t be adults from 1500 – 1900 then they can go forth and multiply with themselves, IMO.
I don’t understand how anyone can do this to family. Although with his it seems they only ever get in touch when they want something, and I’m lucky if I even get acknowledged when in the same room as them. I compromised with OH about inviting children (I don’t really like them and they cause anxiety) so L and G could have their kids there. Unfortunately, we didn’t keep track of numbers but it was explained that if people said no then we would inform L and G straight away so they can sort kids outfits. we’ll now we have 5 spaces and I’ve suggested inviting friends (was going to be family only).
His mother has also said to OH she’ll pay for a 2nd reception for just them to attend. I’ve said she can but better not expect me to turn up as they had their chance. It’s more L’s 2 kids and G’s stepkid I feel for as they now won’t be in any of their uncle’s wedding pictures.