(Closed) Future in laws hate me!

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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2324 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

They don’t like y’all seeing each other? Y’all are going to live with them?

 

How old are y’all?  

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2008

I’m with Kate on this one. It almost sounds like you aren’t having in-law problems, your husband is still to atttached to his parents and that is where the problem lies.

Hope you can work this out with your Fiance. Especially if you plan on living with the in-laws (doesn’t sound like a good idea if you ask me)

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

I’m not judging by any means by it sounds to me they might be concerened with your age – how old are you? I think we all might be better suited to help you , if we knew that key fact.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

Um.. what do you mean FI’s decided you’ll live with them?  This is not his decision alone — you need to make that one together, and you certainly should NOT be living with your inlaws if they dislike you or if you have ANY MEANS AT ALL to live somewhere else. 

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2018

 

 

I would rethink living with them because they don’t sound like the type of people you would want to live with. Just talk with Fiance and tell him that you would rather get your own small place to be together. Good luck 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
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  • 10 years ago

Ok, fist…CALM down…Read back what you wrote and you’ll see that it doesn’t make sense.

Why do you wanna be where you’re not wanted? Livin’ with the in-laws is a horrible idea. You’ll cry EVERYDAY! Don’t do it.

Talk things over with your Fiance because it sucks that it’ll hurt his feelings but in the long run it’ll be better for both of you. You won’t be falling apart due to fighting and emotional abuse from your In-laws and he won’t stress trying to make everybody happy.

Sometimes love is NOT all you need…you need stability, maturity and responsibility. THINK IT OVER.

Post # 10
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Helper bee

I’m not sure you’re going to find many of us here that really understand the entire "I don’t have a choice" thing because in this country we do and many of us are extremely independent. I love my Future Mother-In-Law to death but I don’t think I could live with her, and I’m 30 years old.

This may sound harsh, but at some point your Fiance is going to have to make a choice: you or his parents. If I were in that situation, I would certainly make him make the choice before we got married rather than after it.

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2008

sin,

Are you still in Pakistan or do you all now live in the United States? How westernized is your FI? 

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