(Closed) Future In laws inviting themselves to Holidays

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

So your inlaws don’t know your parents? I think holidays are a good time for families to get aquainted and become closer. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m having a hard time with the fact that it’s hard for you to suggest to your parents that it would be a lovely gesture to invite your future inlaws. Maybe I’m not understanding something.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

If they’ve never met, this sounds like a good way to get them together for a day or two!! Also, of course your Future Mother-In-Law is going to be jealous/hurt if all her children spend major holidays with their significant others and their families – imagine what it’ll be like when you have kids and you have to spend holidays on your own!

This has been a bit of an issue between myself and my fiance too – but we’ve compromised by having one year Easter with his family/Christmas with mine, then reversing it for the next year. Everyone’s happy, and there’s no arguments 🙂

@kerensa:  “I would be perfectly willing to visit them and just eat take out or pizza but they won’t have it.”

I’m from Australia, so don’t celebrate Thanksgiving, but isn’t there traditionally a huge meal involved? I’d feel a bit offended if someone said “Don’t come around to my family’s for the party, I’ll come over to yours and we can have a pizza!”
Unless you’re genuinely concerned that they won’t get along to the extent that there will be a huge scene, I think you should ask your parents if it’s okay, all you have to do is say “Hey mum and dad, fiance’s parents aren’t doing anything for Thanksgiving and I feel kinda bad for them, do you mind if we invite them this year?”

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Your parents and your in-laws have to meet at some point, right?

Just ask your parents if it’s okay to invite them, and maybe suggest to the in-laws that they contribute a side dish or bring wine or something in return.

They’re adults… are they that bad that they need to be told to use their inside voices?

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