(Closed) Future In-Laws issues.

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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4137 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

just let the issue go. don’t say anything…it’s no business of his whether or not you take meds.

Post # 4
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4824 posts
Honey bee

Don’t lie.  If Future Father-In-Law brings it up make sure your FH knows what to say.  Something short and repeat it every time it comes up, if it does “Dad, thanks for your concern, but it is not the same. I can provide you with some research if you would like” 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I agree with lefeymw. Show him research. Depression has to do with a hormonal imbalance so it’s nothing like alcoholism. I have depression too and most people don’t understand and never will.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I would lie. Depending on FFIL’s character though. Some old people are very set in their ways and you’re not going to convince them. More importantly, in the case of family I think it’s not worth trying. On the other hand I can also be very confrontational so I understand how this approach may frustrate you. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

First of all, as another bee who takes anti-depressants, my heart goes out to you for having to deal with just another instance of the ignorance we all face from time to time.  I know if I was in your situation I think my feelings would have been hurt hearing that that is how your Future Father-In-Law feels.

Its a tricky situation trying to get someone to understand what depression is REALLY about and what it means when they are comparing it to alcoholism.  I think lefeymw is totally on the right track.  You have nothing to be ashamed of, and there is no need to lie about it.  Future Father-In-Law may not understand, but honestly, it’s not really any of his buisness.  It’s nice that he cares about you and his son, but it’s your FI’s decision to marry you, and his understanding of you and any medical issues you have have is all that really matters.

It’s tough when you’re living with them, but I would keep on with buisness as usual.  If you continue to act like it’s not a big deal that you take anti-depressants (cause let’s face it, it isn’t) then maybe Future Father-In-Law might re-think things.  I know it may not be likely, but you have nothing to be ashamed of, or to hide.

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