(Closed) future MIL advice needed STAT

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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5118 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

First off, hugs to you, sounds like she’s stressing you out. I’d say with her, choose your battles and kill her with kindness. Sounds like she’s not so much mean (minus the weight comments) but pushy. I think a lot of ‘thank you for your suggestion, we’ll consider it / but we’ve decided on X’ is in order.

As for the colors thing, I think you can only dictate what the Bridal Party wears, but maybe Fiance can speak with her about fitting the look/style of the wedding and looking the part of MOG by wearing your preferred color. Good luck. Even the kindest of FMILs can make us all a bit frustrated.

Post # 5
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5118 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Jessoverall: *hugs* I’m sorry you feel out of place due to her. It sometimes (ok, usually) sucks to have to be the bigger person and just hold your tongue and try not to let the strain bother you.

Have you talked with your Fiance about trying to build a closer bond with his fam? Sometimes families just operate very differently than our own and they may not make the effort to bring you into the fold. :-/ At least if your Fiance knows you feel uncomfortable, he can do his best to keep you involved when you’re with his family and be sure to stay with you for a united front if she gets pushy.

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