Future MIL/Elopment Issues

posted 10 months ago in Family
Post # 2
518 posts
Busy bee

Just tell her look, we decided what is best for us, thank you for offering to throw a party, but we really only want to celebrate with just the two of us. As long as your SO stands by you, that’s all you need to say.

Post # 3
6358 posts
Bee Keeper

“Thank you for the suggestion, we’ve decided to stick to our original plan.” 

There may be issues. She may be unhappy with your choice and she may be vocal about her unhappiness. You don’t owe her a party, especially if she can’t afford it. It’s your choice to make and you have a lot of good reasons for making it. 

Post # 4
359 posts
Helper bee

“No, thank you.”

Post # 5
330 posts
Helper bee

jmelw3 :  “Thank you for wanting to help us put by doing (xyz) but we have everything taken care of.” If / she presses further “I really appreciate the thought but we just want this to involve the two of us. We aren’t interested in a party, announcements, and have the photo situation taken care of.” If / when she presses further, have your future husband talk to her politely but firmly because shes clearly ignoring your wishes at this point.


My Future Mother-In-Law pretty much spoiled the surprise of engagement by making it clear my SO told her the intention to propose and by having him show her the ring. Then she started planning our wedding  BEFORE HE EVEN PROPOSED. I told her multiple times to stop talking about it and became furious when she went cake tasting and tried to buy decorations. My SO had to talk to her to shut her up. Once he proposes, I know itll be like letting a wild dog out of her cage and we’ll have to constantly keep her contained while wedding planning.

Post # 6
517 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

Personally, I think that a simple “no, thank you” will suffice.  If she keeps pushing, “MiL, thank you for the offer, but we are not changing our plans to make you happy.  If you keep pushing, we will be cutting off contact”.  I made the mistake of letting my MiL bully me, and I’m paying for it now.

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