Post # 1
her own song in the processional
her son to stop and give her a kiss and hug when we enter (im atually ok with this)
to speak about her husband (FI father) and iginite the remembrance candle
to hire her own photographer to make sure she gets the pics she wants (mine WILL NOT allow a 2nd person taking pics)
to have an additional caterer make true “italian dishes” since some of her family will expect an “italian reception”
Post # 2
kendra2015: Omg I think you’re marrying FI’s brother! haha My future Mother-In-Law is acting the same way! Its driving me nuts. But we are getting close to our days so not much longer to deal with it. Hugs!
Post # 3
Whoa! How long does she think it will take to get to her seat? She can walk in to whatever is playing.
Now, what does your Fiance have to say about this? You can cover the photographer issue since contractually you can’t have another photographer. That is a common clause in photographer contracts.
That is also common with caterers. Your caterer is not going to allow food cooked by someone else to be served. if there was food poisoning from the Italian caterer your caterer would be liable. I can’t imagine a reputable Italian caterer agreeing to allow your caterer’s food either.
You guys need to put a stop to this and it seems to me that Fiance needs to have a firm but polite talk with his mom.
Post # 4
Can your groom say something to his mother? This kind of thing seams to be easier resolved when the child talks to their parent
Post # 5
- Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle
Can you let her make a speech at the reception, rather than the ceremony? That way she could speak about her husband in a more appropriate setting. And in terms of the photographer and caterer, just tell her that your contracts with them include exclusivity clauses so unfortunately she won’t be able to bring other people in.
Post # 6
How about we give Mom her very own reception in a separate building so she feels extra special…LOL
Post # 7
kendra2015: I feel ya sister! I thought my Mother-In-Law was bad… but yours takes the cake. All you can do is give in on the things you are okay with, and stand your ground on the others. A 2nd photographer – yeah right lady!
Hopefully yours doesn`t threaten to throw her own party on the same night like mine did. No joke.
Post # 8
TinderBoxx: +1 Ha ha ha ha!
My own Mother-In-Law thinks she should be the center of the universe, too, but my SIL is even worse.
Post # 9
kendra2015: I’m sorry you’re experiencing this. I agree with the other bees in regards to having your Fiance have a talk with his mom. It’s important that you speak with your Fiance about this issue as it will happen again the future as other important events happen in your life as a couple (e.i., buying a home, having a baby, ect.). You want to make sure that she understands that you guys will take her suggestions but that ultimately you and your Fiance will have the last word. Best of luck to you and don’t let her make this process more stressful for yourself.
Post # 10
Have your husband speak for you for this one. No need to start any drama with her, but as her son he should put her in her place. Having her own song and having an additional photographer is ridiculous.
Post # 11
kendra2015: A special arrangement, “Here Comes the Mom?”
Can she serve “true Italian” dishes at the rehearsal dinner?
She knows it’s a wedding and not a funeral? Nothing wrong with acknowledging those who cannot be there, but a speech during the ceremony? No. Sometimes a reader acknowledges as part of a list of things for which the couple gives thanks…
Post # 12
kendra2015: If she has specific pictures that she wants, she can just provide you a list so you can make sure the photographer you have already contracted with gets them.
Agreed with PP that you should offer to have a “true Italian” rehearsal dinner (that she can pay for).
Post # 13
Give her the kiss & hug and the rememberance candle. Like PPs said, rehersal dinner is italian food that she pays for and let her make a welcome speech during the dinner.
You can always say you talked to the DJ and he said it would be too difficult and awkward to play a seperate entrance for her for a few seconds and that you see his point (“BUT we’d love for you to do the prayer before dinner/short speech/something else small”)
As for the second photographer…..yeah….no, blame your photographer not wanting a second shooter. Tell her she’s more than welcome to make a list and give it to you of the shots she would like. Pick a couple and try to squeeze them in and frame one of them for her.
Post # 14
Not to make light of your problem but this really reminds me of The Monster-in-Law lol. I would definately sit her down and let her know that this is your decision and she will just have to get over it.
Post # 15
Aside from the hug, all of that is a big ole nope. This whole day is about you and her son, not her.