Post # 17
Ah hon, “selfish” isn’t the right word (( HUGS ))
It is totally understandable you’ve been looking forward to your Wedding for a long time, now something has come along and possibly changed all that.
A Wedding is a very emotional point in time for a Bride… every Bride. It can knock even the most steady or prepared gal for a loop. Especially so in the last month / weeks / days
Now on top of all that you have to contend with this
And as I said the UNKNOWN UNCERTAINTY of it all
And worse yet, when you would normally be leaning on your Fiance for support… well he isn’t here
He’s off with Mom… as he rightly should be
But you are left alone to face the unknown. So ya that is scary.
Know that “the Hive” is here for you, day or night, all you got to do is post, and someone will find the words to give you a virtual (( HUG ))
Definitely not a good as your Fiance in person… but we can help you cope / get thru the next little while when he isn’t around and you need someone to talk to.
PS… Worst case scenario… you have to call off the Wedding / Postpone it… then you can expect to have a whole rush of strange emotions (all very natural BTW). Cause you will be split between having caring & compassion for your Mother-In-Law, Fiance and his family. BUT at the same time you’ll have a sense of loss (grief) for having lost your Wedding. And as such, you’ll go thru the gammit of Grief Emotions… Denial / Isolation – Anger – Bargaining – Depression – Acceptance. (Right now you are sort of in the Denial / Isolation Stage).
I thought I’d post this PS bit now… because even tho it may not mean you have to Cancel / Postpone the Wedding, I think it wise / worthwhile that you know up front what your emotional state might look like if you do… because no one is probably going to tell you this. And in this way you can be prepared for the odd assortment of things you’ll feel at that time.
Post # 18
Thought I would update with the little bit of down time I’ve had in the last two days.
I got a call from my honey early Sunday morning. His mom passed away.
We are all heartbroken to pieces.
I’m now with him and we are figuring out what to do next.
As of right now we have decided to go ahead with the wedding because that is what she would’ve wanted.
We are incorporating something into the ceremony by leaving an empty chair decorated with pink rose garlands and then having each bridesmaid and myself places roses on the chair as we walk up.
At the tables, we will leave a spot for her with her picture so she can be there with us.
It’s so hard right now and I am trying to keep strong for my honey. He is so hurt. I hate to see him this way and would do anything to take away the pain.
Post # 19
I’m so sorry to hear about your loss sweetie. I’m sure your Mother-In-Law would be happy your going forward with your special day, I really hope you find joy in your wedding day. Sending positive vibes to you and your fiancé and his family.
Post # 20
sorry to hear about your future Mother-In-Law passing!! I know your pain. Last Wednesday was my 30th bday and as we are celebrating we got the call. Unfortunately his mom passed unexpectedly as well too. It’s such an uncomfortable feeling because you are sad and want to be the best SO for them, but it is tough. Just do what you can. My wedding is in Dec so I have a few months to put together something special for her. Embrace your upcoming special day and future role as a wife. God bless you.
Post # 21
Just read what you all are doing. That is beautiful. You are going to be a wonderful wife and his mom left him in good hands!
Post # 22
🙁 I just wanted to quickly comment and tell you I am so sorry for your loss. <3 I wish you both all the happiness in the world on your special day.
Post # 23
HUGS! I’m so sorry about all this, I’m sure she was a great lady and will be missed. I really hope her not being doesn’t put a huge cloud over your day, I’m sure it will be difficult but focus on the future and how happy she was for you to marry her son. I like that you are still including her in your ceremony. I think continuing with the wedding will be a nice distraction for your Fiance, it shows that even though this is a horribly difficult time life still continues on and can still bring happiness. I’m sure she will be there in all of your hearts. You and your family are in my thoughts.
Post # 24
i’m so sorry for your loss! she’ll be with you guys at your wedding in spirit.
Post # 25
So sorry for you loss. Wish you & your soon to be husband all the best.
Post # 26
Oh darling, I’m so, so sorry for your loss. :'( Sending love and hugs to you and your FH’s entire family, I can’t imagine how you must be feeling so close to your wedding! I’m sure that she will be watching over you as you walk down the aisle, and she would be so happy to know you’re taking care of her son. Just try to think positive, she will always be with you. <3
Post # 27
🙁 I’m so sorry for your loss.
Post # 28
I am truly sorry for your loss.
Post # 29
((((So many hugs))))
I don’t even have words. I’m so sorry. I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers.
Post # 30
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I am so sorry 🙁 I think your plan is the absolute best one given the circumstances, and I hope the joy of you two joining lives will be a bright spot for your fiance and the rest of his family. HUGS!
Oh and try to be HAPPY on your wedding day! I’m sure she would have wanted it to be a joyful time for you all, not a time of mourning!
Post # 31
I just wanted to comment to express how sorry I am for your loss. I truly hoped, and genuinely thought, things were going to turn out differently for her. As someone who’s father who survived two consecutive heart attacks in January, it broke my heart to read your update.
That said, I think what you’re planning to do in honour of her is beautiful. The day may be different now, and it will certainly be missing a piece, but it will still be about committing yourself to your love. And so despite the horrible loss, it will still be one of the most special days of your life.