(Closed) Future MIL keeps asking to put people from their side family in the wedding

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
3583 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Megnolia:  if they don’t get along why is she insisting? Have you asked her?

Post # 4
1193 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

This is why I’m not having a wedding. I would simply say no and drop it. You’ve been NORE than accommodating. 

Post # 5
5475 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

It might be time for your Fiance to put his foot down with his mother.  You shouldn’t be stuck in the middle of this.

Post # 6
2188 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

Your Fiance needs to tell her to stop demanding that people be put in the wedding. I don’t think your FI’s BIL whom he doesn’t get along with will be upset he’s not in the wedding for crying out loud. Tell your Fiance to have a talk with his mother and say HE doesn’t want BIL in the wedding and that you are not adding any more people. I think you adding the kids and your Future Sister-In-Law was gracious but insisting that an 11 year old sing at your ceremony come on, it’s YOUR ceremony/wedding and she isn’t paying anything so therefore she needs to zip and and stop making demands.

Post # 7
3039 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

You’re a VERY patient person, I would have snapped long ago. It’s ridiculous and the only explanation I can come up with for her behaviour is that she’s a control freak. I would thank her for her suggestions but inform her that all roles are filled. If she persists ,or give you attitude, your Fiance needs to step in and tell her that it’s your wedding – not hers.


Wish you the very best of luck!

Post # 8
105 posts
Blushing bee

I agree with the others. Get your Fiance involved en tell him he needs to say “No”. No need for you to get in a tough spot with your Future Mother-In-Law. If she was paying for anything she would have a say, but since she’s not…. tough luck lady!

Post # 9
7651 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Get Fiance involved and just say no. It is getting out of hand. And if she hasn’t given you addresses for people then you just don’t say anything and don’t send them out. It’s simple.

Post # 10
1710 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

I agree with the other ladies…Fiance needs to voice his opinion and let Future Mother-In-Law know that enough is enough.

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