- 6 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
Ugh, sorry bees, rant coming. But I’m salty. I get along with my future in laws, I really do. They’re different than my family, but that’s a good thing. Well, my furture Mother-In-Law put an engagement announcement in their local small town paper which was published today and put the wrong name for my mother?? The first name spelled wrong, the last name just completely wrong.
They’ve known my parents for two years, have met them often, my parents have come to visit them, they email with them (see their names in the addresses). My mom kept her name, which is kind of the norm where I come from. So basically, my parents – John Smith and Jane Doe – got put in the paper as Mr. and Mrs. John and Jean Smith. Spelled wrong, wrong name. Seriously? I mean, really? In the newspaper?
Now, look, crap happens, mistakes happen, it’s ok. I get that. But she didn’t even really aplogize…THEN went on to say that it’s better the way she put it because otherwise people would’ve thought they were divorced!!! Are you kidding me? That’s absurdly insulting. You’d rather my dad appear to be married to someone I’ve never heard of then some people thinking my actual parents are divorced? It’s really insensitive.
Insult to injury, yesterday she asked if I was keeping my name, to which I said yes. And she said, ‘well, that’s understandable since your mother did.’ So she does know…It happened, and that’s one thing, but the reaction I got when I commented that it wasn’t my mother’s name is what really upsets me. This is obviously not the end of the world, but to an otherwise good relationship, I feel like it’s insulting.
My mom was actually more offended than I thought she would be, mostly because she really knows my in laws. She’s not mad, won’t mention it, but couldn’t really believe it. She took comfort in knowing that it’s in a tiny town in Connecticut newspaper that no one she knows will ever read, but wants to make sure her name is properly listed as my mother in all wedding stuff (which I will obviously make sure of).
Am I wrong to be upset? I will definitely get over it, but she’s been totally cold/standoffish all day, which makes me more mad since my family is who was insulted!