Post # 31
I said it was an extreme example. A family tradition that is being upheld. I don’t know the logistics of OPs IL issues- but I’m not judging any family on any tradition they choose to uphold. As long as its clear across the board (ie- no one but family at events). Even if it’s not for appearances sake for an entire nation.
The OPs response of not attending even when she is married- is just vindictive and causing more drama down the line.
That’s my opinion.
If I was OP- yeah- I wouldn’t be with her fiance- I’d be extremely upset I wasn’t invited. It’s a traditon I wouldn’t be able to uphold and be apart of. But I wouldn’t make anyone change a tradition they hold dear just for me. I’d just ‘peace out’.
Post # 32
My Future Mother-In-Law was the same way mostly. Christmas was always at Fiance grandmas house and she loved me and would always invite me for every holiday. Then his mom would show up and wasn’t happy I was there. She would later tell Fiance every time, “I never followed my boyfriends to all their family holidays.” Even though we were together 2 years before I even went to their first family holiday. I always went anyways though because Fiance wouldn’t have it any other way, and it wasn’t her home, and also I was invited by every other member of his family. Though after we were engaged, she says it’s okay now since we’re getting married.
It’s still awkward and I dread every minute because I know deep down she still doesn’t want me there that much.
I think your Fiance needs to stand up for you and let his mother know that he’s spending Christmas with you. I would be livid if my Fiance just went anyways without me and left me alone every single Christmas.