Post # 1
My mother died in 2006, so she will not be there to help me get ready on my wedding day. I miss her dearly, and am very sad that she will not be here to share this day with me.
My soon to be MIL and I get along very well. And here is the weird part. She looks, acts, and is the same age my mother would be if she were still here. I mean it is just shocking the similiarities.
Would it be inappropriate for my MIL to help me get ready the day of? My FH has already made this suggestion, and is insistant upon that she would love to be inculded in this. Is it poor ettiquette to pull her away from the groom to help the bride??
Post # 3
If you want her there and she wants to be there, go for it. I personally see myself getting ready with my fmil as well, especially since her daughter will be a BM
Post # 4
As long as your groom and MIL don’t mind then I don’t see the problem. I can see it as an oppertunity for the groom, groomsmen and fathers etc to have some guy time while the girls can have some girl time. I think its a great idea.
Post # 5
@thumpurr: I think that sounds lovely! So wonderful to have a FMIL that you get along with as well 🙂
Post # 6
@thumpurr: This would only be poor etiquette if your own mother were being excluded. My fiancée and her mother do not get along, so I expect FW won’t want her mother helping her prepare. FW gets along well with my mother, but it would simply be cruel for us to exclude FW’s mother, while including mine.
In your case, I can’t see anything wrong with it, so long as neither your fmil nor fh see a problem. I would recommend getting FH to make sure she doesn’t want to be helping him, before asking. Though, it could also be that he wants her distracted so she doesn’t bother him.
Post # 7
I think it will be lovely for her to be there. I plan on asking my FMIL to help me get ready, but leave her the freedom to move between the ladies’ prep room and the groomsmen’s prep room as she chooses!