(Closed) Future MIL wants to give wedding gift only to her son

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Holy cow. On the bright side, you won’t have to send her a thank you card (though your Fiance will).

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Wedding presents are traditionally given to the couple.

But, the other day here on wedding bee there was a post  from a  stepfather who was going to  give his stepdaughter a tennis bracelet for a wedding gift.

Interestingly, no one raised an objection that the gift should be something for the two of them or even asked if he was also giving them a more tradiotional gift that would involve the groom.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m glad you both can laugh this one off. It speaks to your relationship immensely. What a whackjob. 

; )

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

LOL! You’re right this is funny!!

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Wow.. is all I have to say.

Then again, our wedding present from my parents technically is something I have wanted for years! Even though it is for both of us, Fiance and I know it actually is mine. My dad has made me by hand my china hutch it is a replica of the one he made for my mom years ago.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I love that you aren’t taking this too seriously.

It really is kind of funny!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Kind of silly for your Future Mother-In-Law b/c your Fiance can just turn around and use the money towards a new house, car, honeymoon, etc. This way his money is directly benefiting him but also indirectly benefiting you too!

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@lolisa: Oh it is, I can’t wait for my parents to bring it up. I just kinda laugh when Fiance says “your wedding present” to me. When we both know it is our present.  My parents are bringing it up on Satuday, I did see it last weekend and is sooooo pretty.  I have other things my dad has made for me.  I have a cedar chest, a night stand, TV Stand, and a book case he has made me through out the years. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

My Future Mother-In-Law does this all the time. I don’t even know what is going to happen with wedding presents. Every Christmas (I know Christmas is different than a wedding, but I’m sure “our” wedding present will be similar) she gives “us” a check for x amount, but tells Fiance (in front of the whole family and me) that it is really for him. I just laugh it off and we always use it for something stupid for both of us. Or lately, he’s been cashing the check and taking me shopping for clothes/shoes/whatever I want. And then makes a point to tell her. She still doesn’t get it though.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Oof, good for you both for being able to just roll your eyes. What a weird thing to do?! I’d just write her a thank you note for her presence at the wedding, no mention of a gift. If the Mr. gets a separate gift, he can write a separate thank you ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

When I first read the title of this post I was thinking you meant a specific material gift for your Fiance. I thought – well that’s not so bad. Like other posters have said – some special gift like jewellery or something for the house…

But giving cash *just* for him? That’s crazy. It’s good you are taking this so well because I would be super insulted!

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