Post # 1
Hi Everyone! This is my first time posting. I just got engaged to my FH who is an aviaton mechanic in the Navy. We know we want to plan the wedding for sometime next fall. It’s going to be a church wedding at a Mission followed by a sit down dinner. My question is what time frame should I plan the wedding for? My FH leaves on a 6-9 month detachment this October. We won’t find out when he’ll be back until he’s already on the det. so worst case scenario is he gets back in July. I was thinking late September next year for the wedding but I want to have time to have the bachelor/bachelorette parties after he’s back, pick the DJ together and do the cake & food tasting to pick the menu together. What should I do? Plan for a later wedding or try to do that stuff before he leaves in October? I’m not sure how to plan my timeline around the det. Any advice appreciated. Thanks ladies!
Post # 3
I would aim for a time that is not a highly requested leave time (holidays). Fall of 2014 would be nice I would think. It also gives you some time after he gets back to get reaquainted with each other.
I’m a MOB who is retired from the military. The biggest piece of advice I will give you is to make sure you get a military clause with all your vendors. It would simply state that if your Fiance can’t be at the wedding because of military duty, you will be able to reschedule without penalty. It happens.
My niece married a guy in the Army about a year and half ago. I mentioned to Brother-In-Law and SIL to get a military clause in their contracts. They thought I was off my rocker but they did it anyway. Niece’s Fiance was supposed to deploy in Jan 2012, so wedding was to be Nov 2011. His deployment was cancelled, BUT….he was now scheduled to go to S. Korea for a year starting in October! They had to move their wedding up to September. Their vendors were awesome about the whole thing.
Post # 4
@hermom: Oh Wow! That would have been horrible if they didn’t get the clause. Thanks for advice, I’ll make sure to get a military clause. I guess what I’m wondering is if he gets back in July of 2014 if the last week of September 2014 would be too early. I’m not sure if I should aim for a later time. You brought up a good point on making sure I have enough time to get reaquainted as well. That’s another factor that’s important to me.
Post # 5
Well, I’m also a 3 time MOB, so what I would do it this:
1. Ask your Fiance what he thinks is a good amount of time to pass after her returns and before you get married.
2. Make sure both of your VIPs are available. The people you can’t imagine not having at your wedding.
Many years ago my then 17yo stepdd planned her wedding with her mom and then let us know after everything was set to go. Aside from being incredibly unhappy with her decision to marry at 18, there was NO way I could attend. She had chosen a date several months out, but I already had orders for an NCO academy and you only cancel out of those if you die. She checked with NONE of her VIPs to see if the date would work. I didn’t ask her to change her date, but she did.
First you and Fiance decide how much time he needs (and guys never really think that through, but I’m here to tell you with 26 years of service under my belt, DO NOT get married as soon as he returns. Trust me on that), stay away from highly requested leave times, and check with those VIP’s. Therein will lie your answer.