(Closed) Future Military Bride with Upcoming Deployment, When to Plan the Wedding

posted 5 years ago in Military
Post # 3
1844 posts
Buzzing bee

I would aim for a time that is not a highly requested leave time (holidays).  Fall of 2014 would be nice I would think.  It also gives you some time after he gets back to get reaquainted with each other.

I’m a MOB who is retired from the military.  The biggest piece of advice I will give you is to make sure you get a military clause with all your vendors.  It would simply state that if your Fiance can’t be at the wedding because of military duty, you will be able to reschedule without penalty.  It happens.

My niece married a guy in the Army about a year and half ago.  I mentioned to Brother-In-Law and SIL to get a military clause in their contracts.  They thought I was off my rocker but they did it anyway.  Niece’s Fiance was supposed to deploy in Jan 2012, so wedding was to be Nov 2011.  His deployment was cancelled, BUT….he was now scheduled to go to S. Korea for a year starting in October!  They had to move their wedding up to September.  Their vendors were awesome about the whole thing.

Post # 5
1844 posts
Buzzing bee

Well, I’m also a 3 time MOB, so what I would do it this:

1.  Ask your Fiance what he thinks is a good amount of time to pass after her returns and before you get married.

2.  Make sure both of your VIPs are available.  The people you can’t imagine not having at your wedding.

Many years ago my then 17yo stepdd planned her wedding with her mom and then let us know after everything was set to go.  Aside from being incredibly unhappy with her decision to marry at 18, there was NO way I could attend.  She had chosen a date several months out, but I already had orders for an NCO academy and you only cancel out of those if you die.  She checked with NONE of her VIPs to see if the date would work.  I didn’t ask her to change her date, but she did.

First  you and Fiance decide how much time he needs (and guys never really think that through, but I’m here to tell you with 26 years of service under my belt, DO NOT get married as soon as he returns.  Trust me on that), stay away from highly requested leave times, and check with those VIP’s.  Therein will lie your answer.

Happy Planning!

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