Post # 1
My FI’s parents live very close, so we see them fairly often. We got engaged a month ago and everytime we see his parents, my Future Mother-In-Law asks if she can try my engagement ring on! It only will fit on her pinky and she wears it for a few minutes before she gives it back.
I find this really weird, but I don’t want to say no when she asks!
Bees- do your future in-laws have any strange habits?
Post # 3
Ha. Yes my Mother-In-Law is a freak. She is a food addict who hoards twinkies under her bed. She requested that we provide a menu for for a recovering food addict which is hard since she basically can’t eat anything. But given all that, she still has never asked to try on my ring. That seems a little inappropriate.
Post # 4
Heck ya it’s a weird request, but it’s a pretty benign one so personally I would just put up with it.
Post # 6
Once is fine. Every time is weird. I think your fiance (not you! she’s his mom) should have a gentle talk with her to stop it. He should be able to say she’s done it a few times, that’s enough.
Post # 7
It’s slightly odd, but I wouldn’t raise an eyebrow over it.
She may be looking for a new ring to purchase, and was trying yours out. You could say something like, “Oh, are you thinking of buying a new ring? We could look online and do some internet window shopping one day if you like.” Hopefully that will distract her.
Post # 8
Once is normal for friends anyways, but FMIL? WEIRD
Post # 9
so odd, the first time would have been fine but anymore then that is just so strange.
ive only ever had one friend ask me to take my ring off when they asked to see it and she didnt try it on.
Post # 10
Once wouldn’t bother me, but every time would. To me, it’s a very special token of love and I wouldn’t want tons of people touching it. Mostly because taking it on and off makes me paranoid I would lose it!
But would I say anything personally to my MIL? Hell no. I wouldn’t want to deal with the drama.
If it were a friend or something, I would gently say, “You know, I’m afraid of losing it and I’d rather not take it off.”
Post # 11
I don’t know, I think its really strange for anybody (especially FMIL) to ask some one else if they can try on their engagement ring. It’s a very personal thing and it’s a bit rude to ask to try on somebody else’s ring.
Post # 12
Her request is a little weird but still harmless. I’d just put up with it.
Post # 13
Sounds harmless. Maybe she thinks it is so pretty, that she wants a chance to see it up close each time?
Post # 14
Eeeeeeek, I wouldn’t like this but I’d probably allow it to a point and then I’d probably begin to say something like “I’m starting to feel uncomfortable taking it off, its just so special to me, I hope you don’t mind”
Like someone else said, it’s a benign request but definitely not one I’d have continue.
Post # 15
I don’t find it weird at all. But maybe that is because I live in a family where every christmas all the women “steal” each other’s jewelery for the night. Every time I see my aunt or cousin they ends up wearing my ring. It’s just jewelery, very special jewelery of course. But like I said maybe I’m the weird one because of the way my family is.
Post # 16
This is really strange to me. The only person who has ever asked to try my ring on was my sister, and that was just one time. I would talk to your Fiance about it. Next time you guys are over there and Future Mother-In-Law asks to wear your ring, have him prepared to say something like, “I must have better taste than dad when it comes to picking out jewelry, because you want to wear P2b’s ring everytime we come over!”