(Closed) Future MIL's Weird Request

posted 6 years ago in Family
  • poll: Is this a weird request?
    Yes : (154 votes)
    84 %
    No : (29 votes)
    16 %
  • Post # 3
    543 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Ha.  Yes my Mother-In-Law is a freak.  She is a food addict who hoards twinkies under her bed.  She requested that we provide a menu for for a recovering food addict which is hard since she basically can’t eat anything.  But given all that, she still has never asked to try on my ring.  That seems a little inappropriate.  

    Post # 4
    864 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Heck ya it’s a weird request, but it’s a pretty benign one so personally I would just put up with it.

    Post # 5
    864 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Double post.

    Post # 6
    7673 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Once is fine. Every time is weird. I think your fiance (not you! she’s his mom) should have a gentle talk with her to stop it. He should be able to say she’s done it a few times, that’s enough.

    Post # 7
    198 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    It’s slightly odd, but I wouldn’t raise an eyebrow over it.

    She may be looking for a new ring to purchase, and was trying yours out. You could say something like, “Oh, are you thinking of buying a new ring? We could look online and do some internet window shopping one day if you like.” Hopefully that will distract her.


    Post # 8
    116 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    Once is normal for friends anyways, but FMIL?  WEIRD

    Post # 9
    411 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    so odd, the first time would have been fine but anymore then that is just so strange. 

    ive only ever had one friend ask me to take my ring off when they asked to see it and she didnt try it on.

    Post # 10
    2523 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Once wouldn’t bother me, but every time would. To me, it’s a very special token of love and I wouldn’t want tons of people touching it. Mostly because taking it on and off makes me paranoid I would lose it!

    But would I say anything personally to my MIL? Hell no. I wouldn’t want to deal with the drama.

    If it were a friend or something, I would gently say, “You know, I’m afraid of losing it and I’d rather not take it off.”

    Post # 11
    1668 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I don’t know, I think its really strange for anybody (especially FMIL) to ask some one else if they can try on their engagement ring.  It’s a very personal thing and it’s a bit rude to ask to try on somebody else’s ring.

    Post # 12
    7560 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    Her request is a little weird but still harmless. I’d just put up with it. 

    Post # 13
    2433 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Sounds harmless. Maybe she thinks it is so pretty, that she wants a chance to see it up close each time? 

    Post # 14
    62 posts
    Worker bee

    Eeeeeeek, I wouldn’t like this but I’d probably allow it to a point and then I’d probably begin to say something like “I’m starting to feel uncomfortable taking it off, its just so special to me, I hope you don’t mind”


    Like someone else said, it’s a benign request but definitely not one I’d have continue.

    Post # 15
    1720 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I don’t find it weird at all.  But maybe that is because I live in a family where every christmas all the women “steal” each other’s jewelery for the night.  Every time I see my aunt or cousin they ends up wearing my ring.  It’s just jewelery, very special jewelery of course.  But like I said maybe I’m the weird one because of the way my family is.

    Post # 16
    2247 posts
    Buzzing bee

    This is really strange to me.  The only person who has ever asked to try my ring on was my sister, and that was just one time.  I would talk to your Fiance about it.  Next time you guys are over there and Future Mother-In-Law asks to wear your ring, have him prepared to say something like, “I must have better taste than dad when it comes to picking out jewelry, because you want to wear P2b’s ring everytime we come over!”

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