- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
I’ll start by saying that I have a pretty good relationship with my Future Mother-In-Law. She is a nice lady and I basically lived at her house for a couple of years when my boyfriend and I returned to University after living together (he is now doing his Masters we live together again).
She and I are incredibly different people (she is quite ditzy, childish and sometimes maddeningly illogical and irresponsible) but she is generally a warm and generous lady. She has done some things I have personally hated (she is single but had an affair with a married man and then overnight moved him into the family home where his sister still lives, but that’s none of my business).We have little in common but we have gone to gigs together, been shopping and eaten dinners and watched movies together, so we have a pretty strong friendship.
However, she has been a little off with me since we informed her of our elopement. She wanted us to have a traditional wedding and was onboard when we initially planned to have a normal wedding (bearing in mind that we’re both still at school, she expected us to have a full-on wedding yet was quick to inform us how she couldn’t contribute) despite knowing that we weren’t crazy about the idea and that it would take 2-3 years to save for it.
So, either way, we are eloping. I kind of just thought she’d come around to it, as all his other family members have been great as have mine. So the other day I had arranged to go wedding dress shopping with my FI’s sister/my best friend and as I was on the way to their home, she text me asking if her mother could come. I hadn’t thought of asking her as she is a workaholic, but I immediately replied saying yes, that’s great!
So I get to the house and my Future Mother-In-Law was a little off with me and proceeded to give us both directions to where the shop is. I was confused and asked whether she was coming and she offhandedly said ‘oh, well, i can do if you want?’
Me: ‘Yes Sue, I’d love you to – only if it’s not imposing on you and you’re not busy?’
Sue: ‘Well I suppose I can come, erm… [turns to her boyfriend] is it okay if I go?’
Boyfriend: ‘Yeah, of course’
Me: ‘I’m not putting you out am I? It was just that Lou said you were coming, I wasn’t sure if you’d be working you see.’
Sue: ‘No that’s fine (sigh) okay, I’ll get ready.’
She then ignored me in the car and wouldn’t listen to my SATNAV directions and kept telling me I was wrong and had a conversation with her daughter that excluded me. Then we got to the bridal shop and she was LOVELY. Like, so supportive and complimentary.Then on the way home she seemed convinced I was having one of the dresses at the boutique, but when I said I wasn’t sure she went cold again.
On the way home she kept telling me that my Fiance and I need to ‘pull our fingers out and organise things’ and kept snapping at me and insisting that my Fiance get his suit from Next regardless of the fact that he wants a specific suit style. Anything I said she just sighed and talked over me, telling me I ‘need to make my bloody mind up.’
I genuinely have no idea what happened, and my Fiance won’t discuss it with her and I don’t want to bring it up with her in case she sounds off at me. Any advice from anyone on this? xxx