(Closed) Future Mother In Law Drama – HELP!

posted 12 years ago in Family
  • poll: Should I tell my future MIL to change her dress?


    No, let it go

  • Post # 3
    290 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I think they are different enough. Sucks that you have to go through this. But it could be much worse! Since your moms doesn’t have a jacket and your FMILs doesn’t have as much beading . . I think it should be fine.


    Post # 4
    409 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I don’t think they’re too alike. Your mom’s has more beading and a different neckline.

    Post # 5
    4437 posts
    Honey bee

    My mother sent me this story in an e-mail. I think its oddly fitting.

             Jennifer’s wedding day was fast approaching. Nothing could 
           dampen her excitement – not even her parent’s nasty divorce.

           Her mother had found the PERFECT dress to wear, and would 
           be the best-dressed mother-of-the-bride ever!
           A week later, Jennifer was horrified to learn that her father’s 
           new, young wife had bought the exact same dress as her mother!

           Jennifer asked her father’s new young wife to exchange it, but 
           she refused.  ”Absolutely not! I look like a million bucks in this 
           dress, and I’m wearing it,” she replied.

             Jennifer told her mother who graciously said, ”Never mind 
           sweetheart.  I’ll get another dress. After all, it’s your special 

           A few days later, they went shopping, and did find another 
           gorgeous dress for her mother.

           When they stopped for lunch, Jennifer asked her mother, ”Aren’t 
           you going to return the other dress?  You really don’t have another 
           occasion where you could wear it.”

           Her mother just smiled and replied, ”Of course I do, dear…..I’m 
           wearing it to the rehearsal dinner the night before the wedding.”

    Post # 6
    218 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I personally don’t think they look alike at all except for the fact that they’re long dresses.  Your mom’s has crystal’s all over the top is a v neck and has no jacket, your mother in law’s hardly has any crystals has a jacket and appears to have a sweet heart neck line, and rouching.  As far as the material goes, a lot of bridal party attire use the same material.

    Post # 7
    73 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Nah, you’re fine.  They look different for sure. Aleast your mom chose somthing classy. My mom…oh god! she looks like shes just stepped out of a trailer. She had to choose the EXACT same colors as my bridesmaids and its short and ruffled and bejeweled in the cleavage (which goes down low)…Im thinking about sneaking into her house in the middle of the night and torching it lol.  Anyways, those look totally different, so i wouldnt worry too much.

    Post # 8
    20 posts
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I think they are fine! I will probably come across the same issue with my mum and Mother-In-Law when the time comes. But as they are different colours i think think they are fine!

    Post # 9
    58 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    @zippylef – LOVE that email forward!

    Post # 10
    783 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    @Zippy LMAO… great story!

    I think the dresses are different enough so it won’t matter. If they were the same color it would be different but they arent, have different necklines/beading and FMIL’s has a jacket while your mom’s has a wrap.

    Post # 11
    363 posts
    Helper bee

    I think they are fine.  Just remember the bigger picture here.

    Post # 12
    58 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I think the dresses are different enough.  I think that the dresses actually compliment  each other – they’ll look great in pictures.

    Post # 13
    25 posts
    • Wedding: October 2011

    That’s so annoying but it could be a lot worse…at least it’s not fire engine red or hot pink! Those 2 colors will look nice in pictures IMO….

    Post # 14
    2365 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    They do not look that much alike.  I would let this one go.

    Post # 15
    196 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I think the dresses look significantly different.  Asking her to choose a new dress after doing that twice already ( 1-asking her to buy a new dress, not the one she wore before and 2-asking her to choose a dress in a diff color after she CHOSE a new dress) would be too much IMO.  If I were her I would feel really jerked around… it seems like she’s doing everything she possibly can to keep you guys happy.  You could have told her in advance not to choose blue or a dress similar to your mom’s.. and that one is quite different so I think it will be fine!  Good luck 🙂

    Post # 16
    322 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2009

    Both my mom and mother-in-law wore navy blue dresses to my wedding.  It really wasn’t a big deal.  I’ve been to several weddings were the mothers wore the same color dress.  Nobody said anything and it was easy to distinguish the mothers. 

    I like both dresses.  Your mom is going to look great!!!  Don’t sweat it.  Everything will work out 🙂

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