Post # 1
I have been dating my Fiance for almost 7 years, I love him and want to be with him forever… there is just one catch, his mom is nuts!
I am not talking a little cooky here… The lady put me in a headlock at her sons Jr Prom!
I have been trying to come to terms with the fact that this is someone I am going to have to deal with on a regular basis, for the rest of her life but things have started happening lately that are are stating to cause all kinds of problems! (CAUTION… this might get long)
First of all, she just got married for the 3rd time, her second marriage lasting about a month, the first was with my FI’s father. And she has all kinds of opinions on what kind of wedding we should have (not that she is offering to help pay for ANYTHING!!)
Second, she JUST declared bankruptcy before she married again and now that she is married she bought a brand new car, a new hot tub and a few other very expensive purchases. This is fine and none of my business, except that she just asked my Fiance for a $1,500 “loan”.
We are not poor, but we are both in graduate school and working very hard for our money. My Fiance and I live together and share all expenses so I feel like I should have been included in this conversation, but she didn’t think so. Luckily my Fiance did… but is still going to give her the money even though I am opposed to it.
Lastly, on Facebook she just wrote all the things she is “Thankful” for. She put that she is thankful for me, even though we have had many “ups and downs”. I feel like this was a backhanded compliment and I actually feel insulted! Am I being nuts here? I don’t know, maybe I am just being moody, but right now I just want NOTHING to do with this woman!!!
Thanks for letting me rant bees! I hope everyone else loved their FMIL!!!
Post # 3
I think that aquiring at least one weirdo family member is normal. Mine is my Future Sister-In-Law. People aren’t going to change and the only thing that you can do is to accept her the way she is and just let the things she says roll off of your shoulders. Worrying about what she is doing and saying about you or to you will drive you crazy if you let it. You love you Fiance and your Fiance loves you, but he also loves him mom and she is someone who will be around. Make it easy for yourself and just laugh at her, forget what she says and smile because if you let the things she says and does get to you, you’ll be miserable.
Post # 4
Wow, a headlock??? For what??? My Future Mother-In-Law is nuts but she knows better than to put her hands on me.
Post # 5
My Mother-In-Law can be nutty, but she has never gone off on my physically. I think you take the cake on that one…I’m sorry you have to deal with this.
Post # 6
Okay, I was automatically assuming the head lock was like a weird joke of sorts? or was she like, seriously pissed and put you in a head lock out of anger? If that’s the case….good luck with that one!
Post # 7
She does sound a bit off her rocker. But as far as her status goes, I think you should just take it as a compliment. It appears she doesn’t dole out compliments that much, so be grateful when you even get a snippet of one.
Good luck lol!
Post # 8
Thanks guys… the headlock was a “joke” to her…. but it wasn’t so funny to me or anyone else for that matter. I am trying hard to let the things she says roll off my back, but what is worrying me right now is the money issue. I don’t like how she buys herself tons of expensive things and then asks my Fiance for money… I just don’t want this to be a reoccurring thing.
Post # 9
I assumed it was a joke as well, but, you never know these days. Lol.
Post # 10
@SweetartMD: I think we were separated at birth. lol. My Future Mother-In-Law is insane as well. My is providing no funds but has a ton of opinions and is treating this as another one of her weddings after 2 failed ones. I can totally relate. I think it just comes to the point where you need to stand your ground. Fiance told her no check = no opinion and she kinda shut up about it since then. Yes, he was mean about it, but she wasn’t getting it when I was trying to be nice. I would ignore FB honestly. I would feel how you feel too. But to let it get your blood boiling is a waste. You just have to try to remember what this wedding is all about, and it ain’t her!
Whenever she gets on my nerves I always tell myself “im too young for wrinkles” and the stress starts to go away.