Future SIL announced pregnancy same day I announced I had to cancel my wedding

posted 5 months ago in Emotional
Post # 106
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308 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

Everyone on here loves to say you get one day for everyone to celebrate your wedding, ONE that’s it. Well OP gets 1 hour, shy does she need more?  Why do so many of you drama queens think the OP deserves up to a week before anyone can share any happy news? That is absurd. PSHE IS ALLOWED TO BE UPSET 100% BUT SIL IS ALLOWED TO BE HAPPY SHE’S PREGNANT. The two are not related !!!! OP can throw a sad pow wow, SIL and the rest of the family should not have to join her. She announced pregnancy to her own parents, I wouldn’t see that as a slight. No one cares about your wedding as much as you do, so same thing applies about a wedding rescheduling. Cmon now. Team SIL all the way she literally hasn’t done anything wrong lol 

Post # 107
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10540 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

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@furmama44:  This response is so unnecessarily condescending and invalidating of OP’s feelings. Yes, SIL can share her news whenever she wants but you make it sound like OP is pouting because she’s 5 and couldn’t have a candy she wanted, canceling or postponing a wedding indefinitely is not a small thing to be upset over.

And regardless of if two things are related it can be hard to hear someone’s happy news when you are dealing with a shitty situation. And OP shouldn’t be made to feel bad about that.

Post # 108
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2077 posts
Buzzing bee

“No one cares as much about your wedding as you do” — yeah we get it, Weddingbee should probably put that on a banner at the top of the website.

The thing is, it’s not about how much other people care about your wedding, it’s about how much they care about YOU. I feel sad for some of yall if this is how you’d treat your loved ones. That complete lack of compassion and tact is pretty astounding honestly. If my loved one had to cancel her wedding due to Covid I would be sad FOR HER, not for me. The cancellation has no significant impact on my life, in fact I’d probably be relieved on a personal level given the pandemic situation, but she’s my family member and I am compassionate for her cause this is a major bummer! So no, I’m not going to announce my pregnancy that same exact day, cause that’s tactless and insensitive. Wait a fucking day or two, I guarantee you the news will keep, especially when it’s kept for six entire months at this point.

Post # 109
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308 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

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hikingbride :  I’ve already said twice she is allowed to be upset soooo….nor did I say it was a small thing to be upset over? I just think its ridiculous shes upset at her SIL for sharing happy news on the same day. She doesn’t own that day to be sharing news. 

Post # 111
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509 posts
Busy bee

Good lord ya’ll are STILL debating over this? I thought this was settled back on page 1. OP is probably over it by now lol. 

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