Future SIL assuming baby is invited…

posted 2 years ago in Guests
Post # 121
2048 posts
Buzzing bee

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katherine31 :  we do know her childcare options.  The baby’s other grandparents offered to watch him overnight and even said that they already thought that was the arrangement.  The baby has been left with them before. The sil also lied about breastfeeding.  She said she styis, but she’s not per her own parents. This is all a power play.

If it were me, and I didn’t feel comfortable leaving my baby behind, then I would stay home with no hard feelings.  Some others would stay behind without a fuss but have hurt feelings.  That definitely happens.  But it’s impossible to feel bad for the sil when she also had a baby-free wedding. This something on another level.  This sil is a piece of work, and that’s putting it kindly.

Post # 122
1239 posts
Bumble bee

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katherine31 :  which is fine. If you can’t go anywhere without your kid, stay home. I would be thrilled if brother in law would just say he can’t make it because he has a baby than deal with the drama of him asking to bring her and then his mother threatening to not come. They can all stay home at this point… but it sure would have been easier if he just checked decline and dropped it back into the mail…

I trained my kids to be comfortable with other people early on so I would never be stuck with not being able to leave them. That worked for me. And yes even if you were my sister, I would tell you come without your kid or stay home…

Post # 123
2164 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

we have a 10 month old and knowing what 10 month olds can be like, I would NEVER expect anyone to invite us to a wedding with her. She’s a super quiet kid whenever we are out and always behaves in church but once she gets comfortable, watch out. I know my kid can be a total tornado and I would never go as far as to not go to my BIL’s wedding because they don’t want her there (hypothetically).

Call their bluff. $50 says they’ll cave once it comes closer to the wedding, that’s my guess anyway.

The older they get the more work it is and the more you want to get away once in a while for your sanity’s sake.

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