(Closed) Future SIL = Bridesmaid?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Is your fiance's sister one of your bridesmaids?
    YES : (54 votes)
    58 %
    NO : (39 votes)
    42 %
  • Post # 3
    632 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I did. She’s only 17, but I think she really looks up to me and I honestly enjoy her company.


    With that said, if you didn’t want to, there is no reason you should feel obligated to have FI’s sister as a Bridesmaid or Best Man. You could always involve her as a personal attendent or hostess.

    Post # 4
    11233 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    He has a half sister and a SIL. His half sister is one of my BMs (she’s only 16, but she’s like a sister to me). His SIL is not.

    Post # 5
    14661 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    No.  They were out of state and I didn’t want to make them buy a dress and other associated cost (my other girls already had the same dress that they had for another wedding).

    Post # 6
    11418 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I included my brother’s wife in my bridal party; however, I did not include my then-FI’s/now-DH’s sisters.  The reason I did not is that my Darling Husband was married before and has four children, and, at the time of our wedding, two current/prospective in-law children.  Since we included all six of the kids in our wedding, and my Darling Husband has more than one sister, it would not have been practical to have included one or both of my DH’s sisters in our bridal party. We did, however, have one of DH’s sisters share her musical gifts at our wedding.

    Post # 7
    169 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Yes. I included my Future Sister-In-Law because our familys are both big on family and the concept of marrying family not just the person. 

    Post # 8
    3569 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    No. I actually like my fsil and we great friends but she lives out of state and I want my closet friends and family members. Had my Fi wanted her in the wedding I would have her be a bridesmaid without hesitation. My brother is a groomsman I wanted him to stand on my side of the church but he was being a big baby about it so he just going to stand with the other groomsman.

    Post # 9
    71 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I am not having my future sister in law as a bridesmaid.  I’m 26 and she’s turning 40 soon. I love her to death but I think it would be sill to have a 40 year old bridesmaid.  2 of her kids are in our wedding (flower girl and ring bearer) and we are going to have her do a reading during the ceremony.

    Post # 10
    1663 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Yup.  We get along well and aren’t super close, but I’d like to be closer.  So far she came dress shopping with me and the other BMs, and it was really fun to have her be part of that experience!


    My brother’s girlfriend is not a bridesmaid.  They’ve been together about as long as we have (4 years) but the gf and I aren’t super close…. and honestly, my reasoning was that they aren’t married, so things might change.  Vs my brother will always be my brother, and my FI’s sister will always be his sister.  FI’s sister’s husband is also in the wedding.

    Post # 11
    3078 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I included my SIL.  I did NOT include my husband’s brother’s girlfriend/baby momma.

    Post # 12
    1578 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club

    No, I didn’t include his half-sister because I’m not close enough and the sides are even (5 and 5) or I would. However his step-sister is a junior bridesmaid.

    Post # 13
    13249 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I did, because she’s very close to Fiance, and I also really wanted my brother as a groomsman since he and I are close.

    My advice is to proceed with caution when it’s family, though… It’s been a bumpy ride for us.

    Post # 14
    1471 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    We didn’t. I get along well with his sisters, but we didn’t really want to include my brothers on his side, and felt we weren’t able to do one without the other. The older of his two sisters did a reading for us, which worked out well. 

    Post # 15
    4675 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I didn’t- my Dh has three older sisters, ranging from thier late to mid thirties.  I’m not very close with them, I felt that they would feel more comfortable as guests (we gave them each a reading instead), and also I wasn’t very keen on having a bridal party at all.  One major reason I had one was that so my closest friend and sister would have a place in our wedding.  I wanted to keep it small, with just those that I felt comfortable with.  

    Post # 16
    1090 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    No. Fiance asked his sister if she wanted to participate in the wedding, and she said no. I didn’t want to ask her if she didn’t *want* to be in the wedding party.

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