(Closed) Future SIL = Bridesmaid?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Is your fiance's sister one of your bridesmaids?

    YES

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  • Post # 17
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I did. My DH is the oldest of 7 kids. I knew he wanted his two brothers in the wedding party, and being from a big family as well, I knew I couldn’t not have his sisters in mine. They were so excited about the wedding, I wanted everyone included. It did get kind of hectic though. He has four sisters and I have three. So seven of my bridesmaids were just made up of sisters. I still included my best friend, my friend who introduced me to DH, and my two cousins as well. HUGE. But wouldn’t have had it any other way 🙂

    Post # 18
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Yes. We’re including all our close family as part of our entrouage. His sister will be my bridesmaid while his younger brother will be a veil sponsor (we’re having a traditional Filipino/Catholic wedding). I’m an only child but my closest male cousin will be one of his groomsmen as well. 

    Our families have known each other for almost our entire lives so we’re cool with having them as part of our wedding party. 

    Post # 19
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo

    I included his sisters, and my sister is Maid/Matron of Honor. His older sister and I are very close, the younger one is only 20 but she’s a nice kid and we’re getting to know one another better. Also doing this made it easier than picking between friends–I have two groups of friends who I am close to, but it would have been 6 or 7 BMs, and that’s just too much. Siblings only on my side –> no hurt feelings. Neither of us has brothers so Fiance picked 4 guys he’s been friends with for 10+ years. It’s a very natural choice, so no one can be offended.

    Post # 20
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I’m not because I really don’t like her, I know that’s harsh but she has never tried to have any sort of relationship with me, even though I have tried to relate to her and get to know her.  It’s not a big deal, Fiance doesn’t like her that much and Future Mother-In-Law is a little dissapointed but she understands my reasoning.  And now she isn’t even talking to any of us for the most ridiculous reasons so I’m glad I never considered her.

    Post # 21
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    My sister in law will not be a bridesmaid in my formal wedding. She and I do not have a relatiomship and have only spoken once.

    Post # 22
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    My fiance has 3 sisters all of which I’m friendly with but none stands apart from the rest. Plus I would feel bad if I picked only one and all 3 would just be too much. So we agreed, his sister’s would not be bridesmaids and my 2 brothers would not be groomsmen. Plus his sister’s will all be busy around that time anyway – the oldest is getting married 2 weeks before us and the 2 younger ones are dual MOH’s for her!

    Post # 23
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

      My sister was my Maid/Matron of Honor and DH’s brother was his best man. I did not have my SIL in the wedding party. When SIL married Brother-In-Law, I played an instrument in their wedding. I didn’t have SIL do anything because she had a 10 month old at the wedding, and I didn’t want to overwhelm her. In retrospect, I should have asked her what she would have liked to do, but thankfully we still get along very well, so I’m not bringing up old things.

    Post # 24
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    Busy Beekeeper

    Nope. Too many reasons that for privacy concerns that I can’t get into. let’s just say you couldn’t pay me $1M or any amount of money to make me change my mind. literally. 

    Post # 25
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I did not include SIL.  She did a reading instead.  DH didn’t have my brothers stand up for him either – they served as ushers.

    Post # 26
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I had one of my SILs in my bridal party. We’re not terribly close, but out of the 3 I have, we have the most in common, etc. On top of that, she was unable to attend our other 2 SILs’ weddings, so I thought it would be nice to include her. Even though she’s living in a different country (UK), she still organized our bridal shower, and attended my bachelorette party. We timed the events for when she (and DH’s brother–her boyfriend) was home over the summer.

    Post # 27
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    My Fiance is an only child, but he has essentially been taking care of a girl about 2 years younger than me (he is 5 years older) since long before I met them, and calls her is sister. The are close, and since she is an adopted child who is no longer in touch with the parents who adopted her, my Fiance is her only real family. She was the first person I asked to be a bridesmaid. Even though her and I are not close (we have only met 3 times), I know that including her would mean a lot to both her and my Fiance

    Post # 28
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    I am debating over whether to have just a maid of honor or have additional bridesmaids. If I do have more than just a Maid/Matron of Honor, I will have my Future Sister-In-Law as a bridesmaid. We get along great and speak regularly. I won’t expect her to help with any wedding planning since she is out of the country, but I’d like her to stand up with me.

    Post # 29
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I did.  She’s younger and kind of expected it, and it would have caused a lot of issues with Mother-In-Law and her if I hadn’t.  Plus, the other sibling was in the wedding party and it would have looked like she was being deliberately cut out.  Path of least resistance and all that…

    Post # 30
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    My Future Sister-In-Law is going to be my Maid of Honor and my brother is going to be my fiance’s groomsman. However we both genuinely love each others siblings and didn’t feel any obligation to include them this way. We just wanted to and it worked out that way. 🙂

    Post # 31
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Yup, his two sisters will be bridesmaids. They’re both great and although I have never really hung out with them independently, I think this will be an opportunity for us to become closer! His younger sis will only be 20 when we get married so the older sister and I were talking about going to Montreal for the bachelorette party- fun! In general I love his family so it was never a question for me.

    My brother is going to be a groomsman, too. He and my Fiance have a similar relationship.

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