(Closed) Future SIL criticizing our wedding plans on Facebook

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
Member
1832 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

This is just stupid drama. I wouldn’t bring up the the recent bashing you find on facebook. No need to create more problems, she is just jealous. You and your fiance need to agree and thats it, if you’re set on 100 guests, and he wants to add another 10, just let him, he is paying for this wedding too. We didn’t want to invite more than 135, ended up inviting 139. Not a big deal, you alwasy get regrets, the numbers will balance out. Even if your bar option is wine only, people have the option to buy their own alchohol. If the future SIL wants to look ghetto and bring in a 40, only to be approached by the staff, thats her problem and reflects her only! Good luck.

Post # 5
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670 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I would show it to him.  Ya it is facebook drama but when it comes to the planning and dealing with family you and Fiance need to be on a united front.  

Nip that shiz in the bud before it gets worse.

 

Post # 6
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1832 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@ccbarre:  If he is questioning why you do not like to go out with Brother-In-Law and his wife than show him the recent facebook bashing. And that you feel like future BIL’s wife just doesn’t like you and its hard to be fake and pretend interest.

Keep in mind this may end up resulting in more family drama. Might be best to get it out in the open if its affecting your social lives with the family. Maybe stress that you are not trying to cause more drama, but would like to try and resolve it so the families can get along.

Post # 8
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6359 posts
Bee Keeper

It’s rude of her to bash you on facebook to your cousin. On what sounds like one of their public walls. It’s good of you to rise above it and ignore it, I think this is the right approach. I would try to keep the drama to a minimum and ignore whatever she does if possible, and I wouldn’t go out of my way to try to bond with her or make her happy. Yes I’d keep Fiance in the loop about everything she does that involves you, including show him that post.

ETA: Oh, it’s her cousin-in-law, that makes slightly more sense now, but it’s still rude. Even if they are close, criticizing a third person on a public fb wall is not the way to go, ever.

Post # 9
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5109 posts
Bee Keeper

I’d let it go with her, but show your Fiance. He needs to have your back on this. Agreed that maybe being a little flexible aboue the 100-110 guests thing is a good idea! =)

Post # 11
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74 posts
Worker bee

Hmm, I would be more concerned that my fiance thinks I’m high maintenince in what appears to be a negative sense, and that my Future Sister-In-Law has the same exact sentiments and same wording rather than worrying about Facebook drama…that seems to be the bigger issue.

How does your Fiance feel about these two (FSIL and her husband)? How did your Fiance react to you telling him to make sure his family don’t bring extra guests?

Hopefully everything gets sorted out for you!

Post # 12
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2335 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I would put a stop to that shit right away.  If that were my Future Sister-In-Law, I would absolutely confront her.  Not saying you need to get in an arguement, but she should know its not okay to treat you that way- you are going to be family and forever is a loooong time to put up with bitchy comments behind your back.

Post # 13
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9142 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@ccbarre:  She’s going to bring her own 40 to the wedding.  Priceless.  That says everything I need to know about your Future Sister-In-Law and why you shouldn’t give two s#its about what she thinks.

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