Future Sister In Law-Advice Needed!!!

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 16
1155 posts
Bumble bee

But does SHE want to be involved?? You want her involved, he wants her involved, you THINK she wants to be involved (but she could’ve been and “passed” on that…), so does SHE really want to be involved? 

Post # 17
6208 posts
Bee Keeper

Reading between the lines you seem to be trying to find her something to do so that she isn’t upset. Never, ever cave in to people like this, you will always regret it

It was a classless move for her to decline to be a bridesmaid – to her mother and not to you. There’s no rule of etiquette that states SILs must have a wedding role. If she’s being such a pinhead about it, leave her be. If she comes whining to you about not getting anything to do (and she surely will, people like this always do), give her some token task. 

Post # 18
501 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

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future_mrs_juarez :  Since she didn’t want to be a bridesmaid she probably won’t want an any sort of other title. I’d recommend just getting her a corsage and having a seat up front reserved for her for the wedding. That way she’s honored without having to do anything

Post # 19
3066 posts
Sugar bee

She could be a groomswoman. That way your future husband wil have her to support him on the big day.

Post # 20
23 posts
  • Wedding: November 2019 - City, State

 Since I have a brother and my fiance has a sister, my bro will be my maid of honor and his sis will be his best man. Both will be wearing their appropriate clothes, but will stand behind their sibling. Maybe she can be part of his groomsmen?


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Post # 22
39 posts
  • Wedding: July 2019 - City, State

Thank you , next! Nope she isn’t supportive of you I would cut her out. She isn’t liking you having the spotlight. You will be her family she should of accepted bridesmaid proposal .

Post # 23
9436 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

If your fiancé really wants her involved in some way then he can figure out what she should do.

Otherwise, I’d just take her refusal of the bridesmaid position as a confirmation that she would prefer to attend as guest. Oh and definitely don’t invite her to get ready with you in the morning.

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