Future sister-in-law bridesmaids don't want to wear the cultural dress

posted 1 year ago in Family
Post # 2
3102 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

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Mlim :  ehh, it’s nice that they’re participating in your wedding.   Personally I would jump at the chance to wear something like that.  However obviously not everyone feels that way.  It’s not*their* culture after all.

Post # 3
4071 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I think it would be neat to participate in, but maybe they worry they’ll be seen as disrespectful of your culture…like they’re playing dress up? Maybe you can add some accessories for their other dresses that can reflect your culture but don’t make them feel awkward.

Post # 5
1054 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Is the problem that they don’t want to wear the dress, or that they don’t want to buy two dresses? Tbh I wouldn’t want to buy two dresses either, especially if it wasn’t my normal cultural style, (but if the bride paid for the second dress I’d happily wear it). 

Post # 7
47412 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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Mlim :  Have you offeed to buy the Thai dress for them? I think it’s a bit much to ask BM’s to buy two dresses no matter what the culture or cost. It’s obviously not that important to the groom as his wedding party are not wearing two outfits.

Post # 8
1561 posts
Bumble bee

I would be unbelievably annoyed at being asked to buy TWO bridesmaid dresses. If it’s just $60, as you say, you can offer to buy it for them. 

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

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curiouscat2017 :  I agree. OP, I would just spring for the extra $120 and buy the cultural dresses for them.

Post # 10
2056 posts
Buzzing bee

I agree with above.  They said they’re willing to wear it for you so stop feeling guilty about following through on that.  But, asking them to buy two dresses is rude.  Pay for the Thai dresses.  It’s such a small piece of a wedding budget.  Don’t be a penny pincher on issues like this.  Enjoy bringing your culture into your wedding.  I saw your dress on your other thread.  It all sounds beautiful.

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