Future Sister in Law from Hell

posted 3 months ago in Family
Post # 2
816 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

This is a really mixed bag, while some of the things have understandably frustrated you the rest I think you’re blowing out of proportion.

I’ve never heard of a sister wanting to go suit shopping for the groom?

It’s not rude for her to decline giving a speech or to stand and welcome guests, you asked if she wanted to so you can’t be annoyed when she says no.

How is she being horrible to you but also ignoring you?

Post # 3
833 posts
Busy bee

I think you’ll just have to let this go.  You can’t change the way she feels or acts and she can only “ruin” wedding planning if you let her.   

Post # 4
281 posts
Helper bee

Just stop trying to include her in your wedding plans. She doesn’t want to participate so stop communicating with her regarding anything to do with your wedding. She can only ruin what you allow her to. I would just ignore her and let her know if she doesn’t want to be at the wedding then she shouldn’t come. 

Post # 5
502 posts
Busy bee

No idea why she would expect her friends to be invited to YOUR wedding. Although the rest doesn’t seem that weird to me. I wouldn’t want to go to my brother’s suit fitting and if she doesn’t want to make a speech, thatis on her.

Post # 6
603 posts
Busy bee

Honestly, I went through something similar (you can see posts about my crazy SIL in my thread history). I was super upset about it for a long time, and finally said “screw it.” I actually took the attitude that your FI is. I honestly felt sorry for her after awhile. She was clearly acting out because she wanted the attention and as much as it pissed me off, it made me realize that while she totally sucks, it’s sad to see someone so desperate for attention that they would act like that.

Try not to let it bother you. If she chooses not to participate, ignore it. You will be much happier that way than worrying about it. Trust me.

Post # 7
28 posts

I have a question: does she think you’d be able to invite a bunch of her friends or does she just want a plus one?

Post # 8
2898 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

No one can ruin your wedding unless you let them. She doesn’t want to be involved? Good riddance. Let it go. It’s not worth letting her spoil it for you.

Post # 9
5773 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2016 - Lola's Trailer Park

“We asked her to come to my fiances suit fitting she said NO, we asked her if she would like to do a speech she said No, we asked her to welcome in guests with my brother, she said no.” 

To be fair, I’d decline all that stuff too even if I loved you to death. I’m not sure why she would come to the suit fitting, she might not want to give a speech (I wouldn’t) and I also wouldn’t want to be a greeter. But the rest of the stuff, she sounds kind of like a teenager? Is she actually a teenager?

Post # 15
222 posts
Helper bee

Did she say something other than just “No”? Otherwise, I don’t see a simple “no” as rude.

Ignore the drama, let her do her thing, and have a wonderful wedding day.

If she’s sulking on your wedding day, it’s on her. I doubt she’ll get sympathy for that.

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