Post # 1
My brother’s long-term, very serious girlfriend broke up with him very suddenly two weeks ago, and our whole family is just devestated. We all loved her so much, and got so attached – she really became part of our family. They were together for so long, it’s hard to imagine life without her! (We joked about how she’d be such a great Auntie, she was going to MC our wedding…etc)
Has anyone gone through something similar? How do we support him best, and get over it?
Post # 3
Yep went through it with a brother-in-law. You take your cues from him – let him talk when he wants/not talk about it, whatever. It really is like a death – he needs to grieve and so do the rest of you. Be there for him, and don’t forget to take some time for yourself to really feel and accept the loss as well.
Like everything else, it gets easier with time!
Post # 4
don’t dwell on it. invite him out to join in fun activities and keep him busy. don’t mention her don’t talk about her….
Post # 5
Thanks everyone, for your advice.
Post # 6
We had a situation where my oldest sister and her husband were on the fritz and so he wasn’t in my wedding. They are still together and my sister is getting married this fall. She is now contemplating having him in her wedding. Which clearly makes me look like I purposely left him out…but that is not the case. I just envision them not being together down the road (it has been on again/off again) and told my sister to think about the photo’s she will have forever. Now my older sister is mad at me for saying that. So, good luck and be glad they weren’t married!
Post # 7
Yesss =[ My sister had a boyfriend of two years. He became like another little brother to me, another child to my mother. Went on family vacations with us, was apart of all of our holiday traditions, got Christmas gifts from us, etc. Then, one day, my sister decided she wanted to break up with him for another guy whom she’d known for a while.
The breakup devastated our family. For a while, none of us would accept or acknowledge the new guy. Sister’s ex still spends a lot of time at our house and stuff. We have just all been so torn over this, wanting her to be happy, but loving him as well. At their graduation last month, we cheered when my sister and her ex’s names were called, took pictures of him, hugged him, etc.
Well, we we’ve all kinda gotten used to the fact that my sister will make her own decisions and accepted the new guy. After all of that trauma and drama, guess which two people got caught making out today?? My sister and her ex. So, pretty much, they’re getting back together. My mom is very upset because this has affected everyone in our family.
People don’t realize that a breakup doesn’t just affect the two people in the relationship, but their families who have bonded with them as well. Now, my family must sit back and wonder when/if my sister is going to dump her bf again.