(Closed) Future Sister-In-Law Rant

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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1798 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@SThiemes88:  You really shouldn’t put anything on the internet that you don’t want to be publicly discovered. It’s easy to feel protected by an anonymous account, but as you have seen, people can figure out who you are.

I think you should let everything cool down for awhile. Then maybe have your Fiance arrange a meeting with her and her H so the 4 of you can sit down and make peace. It also sounds like a few apologies would go a long way.

Post # 4
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252 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@SThiemes88:  I assume you are posting here to get honest feedback, yes? I have to say, you sound incredibly rude and immature. At multiple points in this post, I found myself thinking “WTF is this posters problem?”

It sounds like she was sending an FB request to try and get to know you. You had mentioned that you had not met in person at that time, so she probably thought it would be a nice way to get to know the woman who is marrying her brother-in-law. Blasting her on twitter is not cool. It was probably very hurtful for her to see you saying things like that on the INTERNET (which is SO uncalled for). Twitter is a public domain, and you are calling her “weird” and “creepy” when you have not even met her. And then you call her off the hook like that? Honestly, I would not have answered the phone either. I don’t understand why YOU kept calling. That seems more creepy to me, than anything she has done. And if someone KEPT calling me like that? Yes, I would continue to ignore that person. The only thing I would have done differently in her situation, is rather than say those things about the person calling me to their Fiance, I would have said all those things and worse to this person. Who calls a person incessantly, like that?

Based on everything you wrote above, it really seems like you are the one with a problem. You do realize, none of this would have occured if you hadn’t posted nasty twitter messages, right? She was just trying to be friendly with you.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Honestly? You sound like a drama queen and everything that’s happened between you and your Future Sister-In-Law you brought upon yourself…. If you don’t want the attention, stop posting about your life all over the internet.

 

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I agree with the other posters. If you dont’ want people to act that way, maybe you should stop posting so much of your personal life on the internet, ESPECIALLY about other people

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@MrsSl82be:  Agreed.

This is why I have never understood twitter at all and why I do not post “status updates” on facebook either.

No one is as interested in your life, or cares as much about your life as you do.

You cannot be that surprised since you are posting things which are obviously about someone else and are a bit negative. I mean whatever you put on the internet is there forever. It sounds like you pride yourself on being brash and out there, but you are going to upset a lot of people that way.

I mean if you think back maybe 10-15 years ago, if you were to find a medium to broadcast everything you were doing/thinking to a huge group of people on a daily basis someone would have told them to “shut the h*ll up”.

Post # 8
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155 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Agree with previous posts.  You started it by posting on twitter that she was weird just for sending you a friend request on FB.  Not sure how that’s weird or why you felt that way.  I think you posting that is kind of weird. She was just trying to reach out and break the ice, after all, you are going to be family.  I know I would be really excited if my Future Brother-In-Law got engaged.  

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

@KatNYC2011:  right. I mean, I am less than subtle, even a bitch at times, but I rarely put it on the internet, and never where a bunch of people can see it (except on here sometimes).

But for real, if you were my Future Sister-In-Law and did to me what you did to her, I wouldn’t like you either. I’d also think the same things about YOU that you think about her. Maybe you should really think about what you are saying, because like others have said, things you put on the internet are forever. 

I’ve never understood Twitter either, and also very rarely put anything personal on Facebook for reasons like this. People who overshare on the internet usually have a crappy real life, but want to pretend like their life is fabulous. Not saying that’s you, but I bet you are perceived that way

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

@Frukaj:  agreed. My husband’s cousin friend requested me before our wedding, and I’ve never met her (still haven’t). But now we can both learn more about the other person, and hopefully one day get to meet in person. Its not weird at all

Post # 11
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8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Frukaj:  Exactly. 

OP, you took a nice gesture by your Future Sister-In-Law who went out on a limb to friend someone she had not yet met, and made fun of her for it. 

That’s a pretty big slap in the face from your brother’s soon to be wife if you ask me, and would make a very bad first impression and would be one that would be hard to overcome especially if you continued to post less than favorable comments on both twitter and facebook.

Post # 12
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1488 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

If you put things on a public internet forum, be prepared for it to come back and bite you in the ass. NEVER put anything on the internet that you would not want seen.

I think your point of this “rant” was to make her look like a “psycho.” Well, I have to tell you..it didn’t work….

Post # 13
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5657 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

I think you are both overreacting to the max.

Post # 14
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491 posts
Helper bee

It seems like you were egging he on with your first tweet. I don’t know why in the world someone would post that and then seem surprised by a negative response. Friending you on facebook seems totally normal to me, obviously you will meet in person and be part of the same family.  After what you said, I’m impressed she even said ‘hi’ – she had already tried to be friendly and got shot down – I’d say it was your turn to be the one to take a chance there. 

You called her 10 times. In a row. When she had made it clear she didn’t want to talk to you…. 

Just because she has also insulted you doesn’t mean that you are totally free to insult her also. Especially when you seem to be trying to come off as the better person. 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

“I don’t filter myself in real life and have been known to be the biggest b-word ever even to random strangers.

THIS is your problem. I do not think it is so much your Future Sister-In-Law acting ugly… I think that it is your lack of filter. I think that this is her way of reacting to your rather….. unaproachable demenor.

. If it were me, I would have called the cops on you for harassment if you called me a million times, just to insult me.  If my brother started dating a girl i never  met I would  100% contact her on facebook and internet stalk her!  He’s my brother! And I would totally judge her for what ever she had on there.  then if she made snarky statuses about me, You are damn skippy  i would tell my brother what i thought of her.

If  you’re not proud of it why did you post it? Did you not think of any of the implications that pictures/ statuses would cast on people’s judgement.  If you have an issue with her statuses… here is a novel idea, Unfriend her? Block her?

I am not seeing your Future Sister-In-Law as a psycho… Hi pot. It’s me kettle.

 

Post # 16
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10288 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

The baby clothes are weird, definitely, but I don’t think you have any room to talk about anything else. Your started this by making comments about her on your twitter. Anyone on the planet can find that and read what you’ve written so that was your first mistake. It sounds like you both have a lot of growing up to do. 

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