- 3 years ago
- Wedding: October 2016
I feel like I have tried to make being a bridesmaid simple. I am paying for all of their dresses, I told everyone to pick out whatever type of nude/beige colored shoes they want, and I don’t expect all of them to show up to all (or any, if it’s really that difficult) of my bridal showers.
All my future sister-in-law had to do was get measurements done so I could order the dress. I don’t know what she did but the measurements were totally wonky, my bridal consultant didn’t even let me put in the order until after we rechecked with sil that she had gone to a professional. Anyways, fast forward to two months before the wedding and she wants to order a new dress because whoever she took the dress to claims it can’t be altered to fit because it is too big (I can only hope this isn’t the same “professional” who measured her). It is too late to reorder, but I know the dress can be altered. I feared just this scenario when we ordered it and was reassured the dress could easily be made two sizes smaller, and potentially four sizes smaller.
Now, I need to make appointments for hair for the day of. My appointment has been set for months, all of my other bridesmaid agreed that sounded good. I am not paying for hair and told them I would not be offended if they wanted to save money and do their own hair. So, SIL tells Fiance that she doesn’t know and she needs to see what their mother is doing. Hopefully, MOG isn’t planning on going with all the bridesmaids. He offered to ask her again for me, but I told him I would consider that a no and she could schedule her own appointment if she decided she wants to be part of the group. It wouldn’t be such a big deal, but it was hard enough getting three appointments at the same time early enough in the day, and I had to secure them with a credit card. So if someone changes their mind last minute I’m stuck with the bill.
I also made reservations for all of the bridesmaids and my personal attendant (and their SOs and kiddos) to stay together the night before the wedding. She is opting again to stay with her mother. I’m beginning to legitimately worry about the odds of her showing up on time for pictures at the church.
Then Fiance told me his father called and said his sister is going around telling everyone I am mad that she is missing one of my two showers. This was really surprising seeing as she hadn’t RSVP’d to the first and they have yet to send invitaions out for the second.
I think in the long run I’ll be glad I included her, but the longer this goes on the more I think I should have just picked someone else. My Fiance didn’t care either way, in fact he was a bit skeptical of the idea. I think I know where he was coming from now.
Mostly I’m just venting, but any advice on how to deal with her would be appreciated. For now I’ve just decided that anything she needs to do we need to tell her about and then tell MOG so she can attempt to motivate SIL to get it done.