(Closed) Gah! Guest list drama–Vent

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Hmm. Honestly, I see both sides. We both have really large extended families. Many of whom have not met my SO and vice versa for his family. We’re only inviting cousins who we are close with because, honestly, some of our co-workers are just that much more involved in our lives than a cousin who I haven’t seen since I was 14. How many plus ones are we even talking about here? I don’t think that cutting out plus ones for 19 year old cousins can really be equated to cutting out a plus one for a married co-worker or what have you.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think that since his co-workers won’t know many of the other people there and your cousins will know almost everyone that where you are right now is probably the most fair. If he’s that close with his co-workers I think it would be unfair of you to ask him to cut them out, especially when all of your family that you are so close with are all invited.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

i don’t think cutting people’s plus ones would be good unless they do not have a long-time SO and/or live in arrangment with their bf/gf.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Are his parent’s contributing to the wedding? In terms of the friends for his parents, I would have a chat with them ,and let them know your space concerns. Give them a number of couples/ppl they can invite, and let them know that beyond that, you are over fire regulations. Might be an akward conversation, but they can’t argue with fire regulations!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Ms. Peach: You’re welcome! And I agree with @Khumble: if you are going to cut anyone I would start with his parents friends who don’t know you guys. Personally, I’d tell Fiance to lay down the law with his parents on that one. There are going to be 250 ppl there for them to hang out with, they don’t really need more do they? They got to have their wedding already. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

wouldn’t his work friends all know each other?  i don’t understand why they need dates if they’d probably be sitting together anyway. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

So, you are inviting 250 people? I see a lot of times on here where you get a lot of people you invite who then can’t come. I’ve had 30% of my guests decline and I was shocked. Could you do A/B invites?

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