(Closed) Gah! I think I’m sick of asking his mom for approval

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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3012 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I don’t see a problem with asking for help. His mom always digs in (jokingly) that I don’t know how to hem or sew. I also told her that I don’t care to know. It’s not my thing. She’s tried showing ms before but nothing stuck to me. I didn’t care. My suggestion? Let her do it for now. Stick it to her. She will finally grow annoyed that she’s ironing her grown son’s shirt. So the two of you, together, can learn. Men iron too. I get the idea of being old school, but there can be compromises. Good luck.

Post # 4
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1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

If he doesn’t like the way you iron his shirts, have his mom teach HIM how to do it. 

Post # 6
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5762 posts
Bee Keeper

He should be doing them himself anyway. I have a hard time understanding why anyone has to be taught how to iron too. Unless she’s doing some kind of professional ironing job, what’s the big deal in getting wrinkles out of clothing and how wrong could it be? Are your creases down the sleeves crooked or are you burning the collar?

This is definitely not such an important skill to have that you’d be frustrated about, so I wouldn’t give it much thought or worry. If he’s not happy with it, let him take them to the cleaners and get them done.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@Krises: I actually came to say this. Honestly, I am not judging you for chosing to iron his shirt. But if that was my Fiance I would say F THAT!

You want your ish all pretty, get off your butt and do it yourself.

No offence to you or anything tho.

Post # 8
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4547 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@Krises: Exactly! Darling Husband irons his own shirts in the morning.

If your Fiance irons them, only he can be critiqued. Or the cleaners is a great and inexpensive way to get it done!

Post # 9
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274 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I am also not judging.  I enjoy cooking so i like to do it for my Fiance.  I dont mind doing laundry so i’ll do his.

HOWEVER when it comes to ironing, I dont like to do it.  So either he goes wrinkly or he takes his shirts to the cleaners.

Just because you are a woman, doesnt mean you have to subject yourself to things you do not like to do.  I would tell your Fiance what i told mine:

“Honey I love you and would like for you to look tidy and neat.  I, however, hate ironing.  I have tried and it’s just not my thing. I guess you’re gonna have to take your shirts to the cleaners…”

Post # 10
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11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Yea I’m in agreement with the above. If you want to iron his shirts, fine. But if he has an opinion about how you do it (other than “thank you so much for doing this for me”) then he can get off his ass and do it himself. He is a grown man. 

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I really dont see why you need approval for an ironed shirt, I think it should be pretty obvious if the shirt is well ironed or if there are still wrinkles in it.  Why dont you google “best way to iron a shirt” and then follow instructions.  I personally dont understand how hard it can be to iron a shirt, women wear shirts too. I usually iron the collar first and then the “difficult” areas [the front and back of the shoulders and then the rest is pretty straight forward..

Post # 12
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1876 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

WTF? Why the hell are you ironing his shirts? I’m sorry but – what? Are you a 1950’s housewife? No. If he needs ironed shirts he can iron his own damn shirts. This is just ridiculous. Don’t stress yourself over this, you don’t need his mom’s approval or anyone’s. He’s a big boy and can take of himself.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

totally agree with you! I HATE to iron, its just tedius, i’d rather wear it wrinkled or take it to the cleaners and they can do it lol! I wouldn’t worry about it, if it looks ok then give it to him, if not let him do it. 🙂

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

It sounds to me like you feel, on some level, that ironing skills are a measure of how good a wife you will be and your Future Mother-In-Law is going to think you aren’t good enough for her little boy because you struggle to get rid of wrinkles. I could see myself feeling the same way if it was in my face every day, but try to just let this one go. Spend a couple minutes on it, then say “good enough.” And if his mom wants to give you a tutorial on ironing, maybe you should let her – it might make her feel nice to teach you an old school housewife skill. Over time she’ll probably need your help with things too. And get a little spritzer bottle to mist the shirt as you iron, it should help get the wrinkles out.

Post # 15
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Krises: Yes!  Agreed. 

@SweetRose2011: Ok, I understand you want to be the good wife and help him out.  But really, if he or his mom is going to critisize you on how you did, have him do it himself, or tell him he can ask his momma to do it.  It’s just an ironed shirt, its not that big a deal, it’ll be wrinkle again once he leans on the chair, or folds his arm.  As long as it doesnt look like it just came out of a squished pile… good enough!

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I LOATHE ironing…if my Mother-In-Law wanted to do it I’d let her.

I seriously tell my husband what day I’m going to iron and tell him to have his stuff ready or he’s doing it himself (which he can). Also an iron with a steam and spray option can help a lot.

Your husband should know how to do it as well. Plus there are a LOT of wrinkle-free dress shirts now – perhaps buy some of those and pull them out of the dryer immediately – then you can just do touch-ups if needed.

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